"uni lad" and lad culture

Aha and Oho! A confession!

And I didn't even have to get the thumbscrews out

Not very likely that we will start doing anything iffy. That sort of behaviour seems to be reserved for men people who don't like what we are saying.

Like Oooh wouldn't it be nice if people treated each other in a reasonable manner

I assume someone took exception to me posting the names on his behalf, then.

No skin off my nose, really. But I think I'd want to know if the father of my newborn daughter was spouting woman hating bollocks for all to see on tinternet. How odd that an mner would take exception to me repeating something that is open for all to see anyway? It was a one click to his fb page from his crap spouting on uni lad. I'm hardly a stalker.

I know if a regular on here posted something and had inadvertently left open her security settings into her private life, i'd be inclined to let her know that it might not be a good idea to out herself in that way, but I don't have a lot of sympathy for two faced idiots that post crap on uni lad and then go home to stroke their baby daughter's hair.

His problem, not mine. But I still feel sorry for his partner and child. And his lovely parents who are so proud of their grand-daughter.

Hopefully, he's worked out that he doesn't really agree with the lad culture after all, given his circumstances, and won't be posting on uni lad again. A smidge of shame would go a long way. I might see if he's tightened up his fb security settings.

It was me. I did it because I wasn't comfortable with the guy's wife and child being brought into this. I KNOW none of us would do something like bombard him or spam him or threaten his family BUT this is an open forum and drawing attention to innocent parties who yes...have open profiles on FB isn't on dont think.

I know the profile was open....but nobody was pointing it out before your post madwoman...hope I haven't offended anyone.

MN only read posts / threads that are reported though, so they must have had a report.

So

I can't imagine that if it was them, they'd be holding off posting stuff on here though

No idea. Will get round to checking my e-mails later and see if there's anything from mnhq, but I doubt it. They don't normally bother, though, do they?

Unless uni-lad have worked out where the complaints are coming from and he realised what a twat he'd been. Or his wife did.

Did someone report your post then?

Agree madwoman, I don't understand it. Also think he's an arsehole.

How weird.

I broke talk guidelines for using his real name? When he used it and left his security open so that everyone could see who he was and get to know his whole family and acknowledge what a loser he is?

'k.

How comes we were all allowed to post the f. For. J names everywhere that we're splashed on Facebook, then? And their wives names, and ex's names? That were all in the public domain?

Nope, have read the talk guidelines and have absolutely no idea why my comment was deleted.

The guy posts on a public web page using his real name. I was merely pointing out that's a pretty dumb thing to do when you're spouting shite.

I just showed ds1 the link and asked what he thought of a guy who would do something like that. He said the guy was a sick f**k. So good principles but sadly bad language!

The problem with social media is that it's far more accessible and many parents are lazy about it....my Dad never stopped me reading whatever book I fancied though and I was reading some real crap at the age of ten...it's not harmed me so I wonder if allowing kids the freedom of the internet within reason is actually ok....with guidance they should form decent opinions.

I was reading James Herbert and Stephen King at ten....I lapped that stuff up and some of it is downright mysoginistic...like a lot of horror. But I survived and grew up ok...formed my own opinions.

Mind you...these are real people...not fictional characters...

Question is should ideas like these be propogated through popular media accessed / seen by children and impressionable types and also more or less thrust into the path of people who really don't want to see it.

It's the old free speech vs what is acceptable to society question.

Obv on here most of us don't like this content whether in "lads mags" or open facebook pages and I think we are right but I don't think the "blaming the parents" thing is the right tack to take.

In my day parents would have been shocked if they knew what their children were thinking / saying / up to and I suspect that still holds true, whether the children are male or female.

I think that as a parent you do your best but peer pressure is so strong... Blaming the parents is not thing to do.

Most of the people "liking" that facebook page will look back in 20 years in horror (as people have always looked back in horror at the things they thought/said/did when they were young).

So discrimination based on gender is frowned upon but not illegal?

I'm going to do some more googling & thinking on this.

So his website could only be taken down if it was breaking the law?

I felt the same about AyeRobot's comment Chip,
''Bet there's more than one MNer's offspring on there. They must be so proud.''

as if she was blaming the mothers for the way in which the boys had become misogynistic, that as a parent they had either failed or were proud of the fact they had produced 'real men' but apparently it was only a joke in another poster's opinion.

Probably just me reading too much into it. But have spent years in the company of women with girls only who have occasionally looked at me as if they pity me for having to raise wild animals. And my boys are actually quiet lads!

I see Chip I think maybe it was a badly put ponder...I also wonder what the lads Mums might think if they read that kind of stuff...but I suppose it's like any parents...some are good and some are not. SOME will be horrified and others will shrug.

It's like I wonder why some girls are mean or violent...and think about their parents and how they brought them up...but I do see what you're saying. Maybe she said she didn't have sons as a way of explaining she might be talking bollocks?

Awkward, maybe I'm taking her up wrong but Lovetats comment at 15.30 begins with "I don't have sons" and wondering what the mothers of these shits guys think. Why is it relevant that she doesn't have sons? I didn't like misogynists before I had sons and I certainly didn't start to like them as soon as I held ds1 in my arms.

Who said that Chip?

Can I ask why the hell women who "don't have sons" ( what, do you want a medal for producing all-females?) seem to think that as soon as you have a son, your brain turns to mush and you become all about the menz. FWIW, I have four sons and they all know full-well what my opinion of these misogynistic twats is. And I hope I have raised my older boys and will raise my younger boys to treat women with respect.

I think they're ignoring it too...if people on here have reported too they have obciously noticed...but are ignoring.

So did I. Freudian slip there?

I liked defemation actually ;-)