Mums mums mums. What about Dads?

53 replies

Msfickle · 03/04/2012 22:16

Seems to me that society is just a bit obsessed with motherhood as opposed to parenthood.

I'm pregnant with our first child and am going straight back to work (I'm the high earner) while my husband gives up work to be a sahd.

People can't get their head around it though. It's as if people think I'm some kind of weird alien. Is it only mothers that can nurture babies?

OP posts:

Dustinthewind · 03/04/2012 22:39

I did the same OP, had four months off, had a SAHP and expressed milk, and fed when I was there. Yes, I was a weird alien and it needed repeating several times to many incredulous women who thought it was odd. This was 21 years ago.
I'm sorry the situation hasn't improved for you.

WidowWadman · 03/04/2012 22:35

It's annoying though - I hated it when I was pregnant that it seemed to a lot of people only to be about me - I was getting bored witless with being dragged around baby shopping, and at the same time my husband was being ignored and not really asked how he was feeling about it.

When I was put at risk of redundancy in my first pregnancy, which was very stressful to me, I've heard such gems as "Oh, but maybe you just don't want to work anymore when you've had the baby, so it's not that bad".

Yeah, it's the woman who's pregnant, and if she chooses to breastfeed, it's her who does it. But without an involved father that's much harder than if you've got his support.

At the same time it grates that SAHD's get special mentions and flowers, fathers who share responsibilities equally get special mentions and comments about how "well trained" they are, while a mother can do whatever she chooses and will always get stick for it.

FirstLastEverything · 03/04/2012 22:22

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Unflip

1 2 3