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Am I a feminist? Not sure if I fit....

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rogersmellyonthetelly · 26/03/2012 10:18

I believe that people should do the job that they are best suited to based on their abilities rather than their sex. This is all jobs not just paid employment. I get really annoyed when I get called ducky or love or other such nonsense by people I don't know. I took my husbands surname when I married because I liked it better than my maiden name. I believe I can do anything except father children should I put my mind to it, and that if I was crap at it that is due to
My own lack of ability rather than my sex.
I challenge anyone who makes sexist remarks or implies that someone can't do
Something because they are female/male. My particular annoyance is when people imply that I should let my husband drive the 7.5 tonne horsebox because I couldn't possibly park it. :0|

I do however believe that men and women are naturally subject to different feelings and emotions in certain areas, but that both men and women should not use this as an excuse for their behaviour, nor insist that their feelings are the only right feelings iyswim.
I also love pink sparkly stuff and lipstick, high heels and having my hair done. Not sure why as pink and sparkly isn't really practical around horses, but I just can't help myself, it seems to call to me....

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AndiMac · 26/03/2012 10:37

I use the term feminist because I don't like seeing it used as an almost insult or something to whisper quietly only to close friends. However, I generally tend to think of myself as just a fair human. So yes, I would say you are a feminist, but really I just think you are a sensible person. IYSWIM. :)

Devora · 26/03/2012 10:37

Of course you're a feminist Smile. I often disagree with stuff that gets said on the feminism threads but I've got all the confidence of 30 years of lesbian feminist activism behind me - I'm used to thinking other women are talking shite Grin

rogersmellyonthetelly · 26/03/2012 10:34

I came on here because I get a bit pissed off in aibu when I read about how both men and women behave towards each other and because dh is insisting I am a feminist and I wanted to see if it's true lol. Oh and I fancied some debate, I'm an argumentative cantankerous old buzzard you see.

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DoomCatsofCognitiveDissonance · 26/03/2012 10:31

What different feelings and emotions do you reckon those are, out of interest?

I don't agree with you and it's be a big part of my feminism that I don't agree with that - but that's my feminism ... it doesn't have to be yours!

If you don't want to discuss it don't worry ... I wasn't sure if you were putting stuff out there for discussion or just looking for some reassurance feminism is a broad church. If the latter ... yes!

rogersmellyonthetelly · 26/03/2012 10:30

I'll have a read of that book, but I can't help but think that women have oestrogen And progesterone which varies constantly, men have testosterone. Some days I have to fight to be rational about things because my mood and feelings are affected by these hormones, I have been known to get out of bed and issue a warning to dh that he should not take offence if I chew his ear off about a minor point as I'm not quite myself today.

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DowagersHump · 26/03/2012 10:27

Sorry, that post sounded a bit terse. Yes, you sound like a feminist to me too :)

SardineQueen · 26/03/2012 10:21

Sounds fair enough to me Grin

Are you going to hang around the section now? I think I recognise your name though so maybe you post here already?

Not all feminists agree with each other by the way, so there is plenty of discussion to be had!

DowagersHump · 26/03/2012 10:20

Read Cordelia Fine's Delusions of Gender. She argues that men and women are socialised differently, there is nothing 'natural' about it

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