Tulisa - wonderful role model

what SGM said!

i know there's a whole conspiracy-theory going around that it's a publicity stunt but i don't believe that. i feel really sorry for her, but i'm glad she did the youtube video and put the blame onto her ex - where it belongs. she did nothing wrong whereas he's an arse...

I bet many boys will say "ur uptight" if u dont allow a few photos or "If you loved me you would let me film you " Its just a different variation the same old line .Id say this is at epidemic levels already .Then used as blackmail against the girls to manipulate them and accept allsorts of abusive behaviour .

I agree Nyac ,my point is it publicises that it has become a fact of life .I think we are niave to think it hasnt .I hope I am wrong I hope boys arent asking their young girlfriends to photograph themselves and send them photos or make videos.I think it is probably common practice to be asked at some point in a relationship even if both people choose not to .I think the technology is there & I think vulnerable people are there .

The article just makes it seem like a fact of life that these little scumbags are making covert porn films of women:

"Today, sex tapes (sex MP4s? Sex mov.files?) can be filmed covertly and lurk on many boys' iPhones"

Which if it isn't illegal (I think it is) should be, and the bland acceptance that boys will do this needs to be challenged. It's sickening that men and boys do stuff like this to women.

We should only agree to be filmed doing/saying things we'd be happy for our grandparents and/or our children to see. Because you really never know where these recordings might end up.

But surely" dealing with it with dignity and grace "helps her to reclaim some power .It takes guts to do what she did .I respect her for that .Articles like in the link also publicise how easy it is nowadays for ANYONE to be exploited by a film recording .Vulnerable people "in love "will trust their lover ,it is all ABUSE but everyone in life makes their own choices and ultimately better self esteem is the only power we have to make better choices but the desire to be loved and the thrill of being in love can make people become manipulated ,no doubt about it.

Tulisa consented to being filmed sucking that guy? So why did she release a statement saying the tape was fabricated, that she was shocked and that she's never allowed herself to be filmed performing sex acts? And how does any of this make her a role model or hero??

She's really missing the point that making public pornography of a woman is a good way to show women enjoying sex. It's about humiliation and invasion of privacy. Any man that does this will know what he's doing to his partner.

Given the amount of pornography and sexualisation in the media that exists now, it's pretty difficult to argue that women are portrayed as not enjoying sex. It's pretty much every young woman's duty to be ensuring her own fair share of orgasms.

At first I thought it was very gutsy of her to make the second video, where she admits it's her in the first video. But then I suspect the entire thing was a publicity stunt. Either way I do not see her as any sort of role model. When I think of role models I'm thinking of the likes of Maya Angelou or Michelle Obama or even JK Rowling.

She blatantly did it on purpose. Her new video is out this week about how we all make mistakes when were young and its just part of growing up. Bit of a coincindence isnt it? It will help her career and she knows it because of the publicity.

Not sure about role model but if it stops idiot girls 'agreeing' to be filmed then go her.