Tulisa - wonderful role model

Other people's sex lives are not something I feel entitled to watch.

Well clearly if I or anyone else wanted to watch "other peoples sex lives" we'd just view porn films! I watched the vid because I wanted to see if it was Tulisa or not (this was before her confession). After viewing the (BORING) vid I still wasn't sure if it was Tulisa or not. The only interesting thing in the vid was the purple willy. I feared for the guy's health slightly.

No. We don't. You do though.

The video was very boring actually. But then many of you already know that.

I have not watched the video as I do participate in the sexualised violence of others.

It's called being a decent human.

I haven't seen the video, I would not want to look at something like this. Other people's sex lives are not something I feel entitled to watch.

You wish.

You actually watched this video but then you're slagging Tulisa off for being in it, when you were quite happy to watch her being filmed giving a blowjob. She's saying that she didn't want this video in the public realm. Even if you aren't sure who to believe from your point of view there's still a large chance (50-50) she's telling the truth, in which case you've risked taking part in the violation of her privacy.

It's almost certainly why you're giving her such a hard time on here, because you did something wrong.

I think you'll find you're in a pretty small minority Karma.

I'm one of the few here ADMITTING to watching it. The majority will have seen it.

KarmaK this will be the first time I have said this to anyone on MN but do fuck off dear.

You need to work on learning to cope when somebody strongly disagrees with you. At present your intellect and ego can't handle it and you resort to name-calling and foul language :)

Who else has seen the video here? I think you'll find you're in a pretty small minority Karma.

Everybody else doing it isn't an excuse for that kind of nasty behaviour.

Why would you want to watch Tulisa giving a blow job and then slag her off about it - that seems a bit odd to me. If you think her behaviour is bad, giving a BJ to her boyfriend, yours is worse for watching.

KarmaK this will be the first time I have said this to anyone on MN but do fuck off dear.

She lied. He lied. Whats the difference?

Taking my cue from others, I will hide this thread. I certainly wont engage in a battle of wits with you KarmaK, you are obviously not armed.

(and he did do it)

And you'd know this how?

The hypocrisy is hilarious. Ranting at me because I dare to disagree with you and because I admit I see Tulisa as a talentless, manipulative wretch. And yet you feel it's fine to villify her ex, a man you know very little about. You'll give Tulisa the benefit of the doubt despite the fact she's told big fat lies. But you won't give that same leniency to this Purple Willy guy. Wow. Stunned and saddened.

I dont think she is a feminist, I do think she is a victim. A victim of the person who sold her down the river, a victim of the music industry and a victim of the media. Saying its her own fault is normalising it an okaying what this ex did. (and he did do it)

KarmaK are you her ex or something?

Yes I am. I'm the Purple Willy guy.

I actually like her but think a lot of young women in this industry are 'advised' to go down a risque sexual route to sell their music on the RnB scene. The papers and twitter shouting feminist! are wrong imo She is being exploited by the male dominated industry like many before her Hiding thread now as have work to do!

I havent seen the video. I would be sickened to watch such a thing.

KarmaK are you her ex or something?

I dont rate the music, but I do have respect for her when I saw the documentary of her and her mother, who has severe mental health issues and she cared for her from a young age. She has been through a lot.

She is new in the US where it is notoriously difficult to get started esp for UK acts.

That's kind of nasty that you looked at this video Karma. Maybe that's why you're being so hard on Tulisa, to justify taking part in the invasion and violation of her privacy.

Oh right, so nobody else here has seen the vid. Yeah. Right. :)

In an ideal world a singer will have actual talent and that in itself will carry them forward. This applies to people like Adele and Beyonce who've made it really big and actually can sing and in Beyonce's case dance really well too. Tulisa has an average (at best) voice and nothing about her stands out. Her sex tape helps distract from the fact that her solo music is pretty shit.

She isnt just this new girl on the scene though. She has been in a very successful band for years and years. I wouldnt be a fan of their music etc but so so many people are. Plus the X Factor? Yeah, I really cant see what she stands to gain from this video.

and i'm sure you're right - wouldn't bother me to have total strangers on the internet call me a slut/skank/whore and discuss whether my technique is any good, i'm sure she's loving the attention. This, is just so very very wrong..

I'd feel like a bit of a perv and a voyeur looking at something like that.

That's kind of nasty that you looked at this video Karma. Maybe that's why you're being so hard on Tulisa, to justify taking part in the invasion and violation of her privacy.