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A game of 'Feminist is happening here'

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TheGrassIsJewelled · 01/11/2011 14:15

Inspired by the 'It's like Feminism never happened', here is, I hope, a positive thread for the small and big daily triumphs that prove feminism is happening.

My only one is a tad petty - I'm refusing to fall into the 'nagging wife' stereotype, so after asking a couple of times (hard to tell where nagging starts), I do the job myself. (Aware that actually this means I'm doing more, rather than less, wifework, but it's a baby step!).

Vamos!

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MrsCog · 02/11/2011 10:52

Great idea for a thread. The other day I spoke up about potential games to be played at a baby shower... (holding a toy baby whilst practicing putting the washing up etc (bleughhh)) and pointed out it was interesting that you don't see men/Dad's playing stupid games and practicing household chores, and that surely friends to get together to celebrate their friends baby/pregnancy in other ways. The room went a bit silent but I think I got a few people thinking!

LaPruneDeMaTante · 02/11/2011 10:42

TheGrassIsJewelled: only read OP, and I like the idea of a positive thread, but I don't agree that that's a triumph.

I hate nagging too, but just doing the job myself is something I personally find demeaning. My words have been unheard or wilfully ignored.

funnypeculiar · 02/11/2011 10:36

Dd - whose sparkly pink stage depressed me - has decided (age 5) that she no longer wants to wear anything pink, sparkly or skirt-like. She insisted in shopping in the boys section of H&M at the weekend and chose some lovely, bright, cheerful stuff - it's interesting how the boys stuff is actually often un-gendered in the way the girls isn't.

ElderberrySyrup · 02/11/2011 10:22

DH has discovered that baking scones with the children is not some mysterious feminine thing that only a mother can do, but in fact is quite easy and fun.

Ha ha, I'll have him patchwork quilting next!

epicfail · 02/11/2011 10:20

Recently DDs school was visited by the Sexual Assault Services who spoke about consent - no meaning no and so on. This sparked a lot of conversation about rape myths at home. One of my DDs, 14yo, had to do a project this week based on human rights. She did her project on Slutwalks.

She is really disappointed that we are going to be away interstate when the local Slutwalk takes place here in a couple of week's time.

Onemorning · 01/11/2011 14:46

My 12 year old niece has gone from wanting to be 'thin' when she grew up (conversation with her at age 6 that made me want to cry). She now wants to do a maths degree and is looking at old O level books. Not strictly a feminist thing (and not my triumph) but I'm so happy and proud of her.

I am a fundraiser and our fundraising company updated their form - I made them change 'Housewife' to 'Stay at home parent' as a) I hate the word housewife and it's connotations and b) 1 in 7 stay at home parents are dads.

weeonion · 01/11/2011 14:36

TGIJ - so do I though her dancing is probably better than mine!

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TheGrassIsJewelled · 01/11/2011 14:32

I know, giyados. It's not really that great a triumph - unlike weeonion's.

I don't want to have to nag (and generally don't have to), so decided that from now on I would just take charge instead.

weeonion I want the same job split as your DD Grin

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weeonion · 01/11/2011 14:29

i told my DD that of course she could be a fire woman after her nursery visit to a fire station where there were NO female workers and the idea of female fire fighters was not even brought up. She quite fancies part time fire fighter, part time vet and part time dancer.

giyadas · 01/11/2011 14:25

Sorry to be negative, but isn't it the purpose of the nagging wife stereotype to get you to do the job yourself?

Like the idea of a thread for positive triumphs though.