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SamhainSausageFruit · 26/10/2011 01:12

I remember at ante-natal classes when I was expecting DD, they showed the BF video - anyone seen that one?

And I was totally struck by how the breasts all looked, well, 'imperfect'.

Then I realised something: I had never seen real breasts before.

Only inflated implant chests in magazines etc.

Up until that day I thought I had freakish deformed boobs which only surgery could "cure".

I was 25 and thought I was hideously deformed. Makes me feel sad and angry, isn't this the worst kind of misogyny, engendering self-loathing in women, turning us against our own bodies?

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SinicalSal · 26/10/2011 13:59

I'm not too sure about the primary function of breasts is the feeding of infants thing. Obviously it's a very important function - I'm doing it right now in fact - but you only spend a small proportion of your sexually active life bfing. In general, of course.

I'm apparently an e-cup now, and I'm feeding my second child. They do NOT look like magazine boobs. I'm ok about it now, but when I finish bfing and I 'reassign them to other duties' I don't know how I'll feel. They were one of my best features...sigh.

Rollon2012 · 26/10/2011 11:25

I think its must be some sort of progessive thing startail

many of my slim friends are at least a c some are tiny, it is odd when I see very large women with big busts I think my weight is a variable in my bust size but I have never been 'small' niether has my sister shes a similar size to me, my mum at my age was a b and slim I think generations health deterioating (sp.) adds to this too.

ThatsNotMyBabyBelly · 26/10/2011 11:24

That a great website thank you.

startail · 26/10/2011 11:19

I must confess that even at 43 I still have trouble getting my head round the percentage of women with large busts. Mine are a B cup pregnant, BF whatever and even my very large sister is only a C.
I had a collage friend with much larger ones, but she was very much the exception and I never saw her naked.

PamBeesly · 26/10/2011 11:11

KRITIQ I read that about Ruskin too. I think breasts are great because they feed. Unfortunately their main purpose is very often overlooked and there sole purpose for many is sexual. The asthetics shouldn't matter, its sad people think they are hideously deformed, glad you know differently now OP :)

Rollon2012 · 26/10/2011 11:05

i agree op

I looked at that link I still think god I have horrible boobs, their not really nice pear drop shape with a nipple halfway up the boob, I do get very jealous of people with nice boobs.

im a E have bf and being braless makes me feel physically sick, I sleep in my bra , have huge issues with braless, sagging etc would be nice to to be that crazy about it not sure how much the media has to answer for my issues though.

anastaisia · 26/10/2011 10:37

have you ever seen this site normal breasts gallery?

(possibly not work safe, since it's a gallery of images of totally normal, all different shape and sizes of breasts)

skrumle · 26/10/2011 09:00

i kind of agree.

do you know the thing that made me think about it recently was the semi-nude pics of scarlett johansson. they were clearly just taken by herself and in the topless shot her boobs looked normal - you get so used to seeing boobs in magazines shaped and hoisted and airbrushed that even women without implants look as though they have "perfect" breasts. i think i'm pretty aware of the impact that the media has, etc but i had clearly internalised that i have rubbish boobs while beautiful people have boobs that naturally sit just below their clavicle...

KRITIQ · 26/10/2011 08:30

I think the op is totally reasonable. I doubt most girls and young women spend much time looking at each other's breast. Swimsuits and bras are designed to make breasts look uniform, so you don't get any true idea what they really look like.

It was only when I trained as a nurse that I realised the variation in appearance of body parts myself. Think of all the airbrushed examples we're exposed to by comparison with real bodies.

I think it was Ruskin who was physically sick on his wedding night when he discovered what his new wife's body looked like, pubic hair and all. He was expecting something like what he'd seen in classical paintings of nudes. Perhaps it's come back to that again.

SamhainSausageFruit · 26/10/2011 08:15

What's your point Kristina?

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KristinaM · 26/10/2011 01:30

Well even with swimwear or underwear on i wouod have thought you could tell that breast come in various shapes and sizes. But i guess you have had a very sheltered life.. And top shop have cubicles now

SamhainSausageFruit · 26/10/2011 01:22

Well all the swimming pools I've ever been in have seperate changing rooms, didn't go to a topless beach till I was 27, and people tend to keep their underwear on in communal changing rooms (as I recall Topshop used to have, but not been there recently!).

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KristinaM · 26/10/2011 01:18

I agree with you

Although i am wonderig how you reached the age of 25 and had never seen any real breasts. Did you never go to the gym/beach/use a changing room/go swimming? Did all your friends have fake boobs?