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SamhainSausageFruit · 26/10/2011 01:12

I remember at ante-natal classes when I was expecting DD, they showed the BF video - anyone seen that one?

And I was totally struck by how the breasts all looked, well, 'imperfect'.

Then I realised something: I had never seen real breasts before.

Only inflated implant chests in magazines etc.

Up until that day I thought I had freakish deformed boobs which only surgery could "cure".

I was 25 and thought I was hideously deformed. Makes me feel sad and angry, isn't this the worst kind of misogyny, engendering self-loathing in women, turning us against our own bodies?

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porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:18

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chibi · 28/10/2011 13:17

it's like a channel 5 panel discussion show

StewieGriffinsMom · 28/10/2011 13:15

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chibi · 28/10/2011 13:14

great

a convo between ms superboobs and a page 3 devotee

hilaaaaaarious

NhameCage · 28/10/2011 13:12

Yes page 3 have a strict rule - natural boobs only. Look it up.

porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:11

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NhameCage · 28/10/2011 13:10

Page 3 only have real boobs, have you never seen that?

chibi · 28/10/2011 13:09

i'm not sure i like your tone

hahahahahahahahahahaha

porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:09

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BleughCowWonders · 28/10/2011 13:06

Total of over 3 yrs breastfeeding here, and still no sagging... Can go bra-less whenever I want.

(not boasting, just trying to put procelaine straight, though I suspect she will only believe what she wants to...)

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 28/10/2011 13:00

Well, four years altogether, and yes they are, as it happens, but they're no worse than my DSis's who also has two DC and didn't BF.

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porceleine · 28/10/2011 12:56

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PlentyOfPubeGardens · 28/10/2011 12:54

SGM is right - it's pregnancy that causes the changes. If yours haven't changed much from pregnancy, they'd still look amazing if you had breastfed.

I have amazing boobs too - mine fed two DC for two years each and now I can roll them up

Lifeissweet · 28/10/2011 12:52

I hate to break it to you, Porceleine, but gravity always wins - as does age - and without surgery, one day your breasts may not be the same as they are now.

Mine are pretty big and yet perky, but they are gearing up for a second bout of breastfeeding when my bump is born in Feb. I know that because of their size, their bounciness is not going to last forever. They didn't deflate much after a year feeding my DS, but they may this time.

To me an 'amazing' boob is one that feels good when a partner touches it and which feeds my children. Their sexual function, as far as I am concerned, is about me. They may turn on my partner - but I think he is far more turned on by the effect it has on me when he touches them more than just as something to look at.

When I am old and grey and they are swinging by my knees, I will still be able to look at them and be grateful that they nourished my children.

porceleine · 28/10/2011 12:41

StewieGriffinsMom: who are you to judge me? Pregnancy hasn't changed my boobs. Ok so they were a bit bigger but soon went back to their normal size. I suspect you just like to judge others who don't share the same views as your own. You are wrong, simply put.

porceleine · 28/10/2011 12:38

I value looks a fair bit and didn't want to ruin my shape. I appreciate this makes me look selfish but I was worried with how I would look at myself afterwards, plus all the horror stories about breastfeeding you hear about.

I have the most amazing boobs, why would I want to ruin them? And this is not only my own opinion, it is that of my partner too.

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SinicalSal · 28/10/2011 12:30

Thing is porcaleine - ruined by whose lights?

I think it's unfair that breasts are only valued when they're ornaments, set aside for attraction, rather than objects to be used in the care of infants. I struggle with it myself, but I do think the concept of ruined comes from other peoples heads not mine. And other people can fuck off Wink (which is what I think MOST of the time but not all)

porceleine · 28/10/2011 12:22

I didn't breastfeed at all for fear of ruining my lovely shaped boobs and encountered much antagonism. Anyone else had this?

nooka · 28/10/2011 06:30

Thanks for that link anastaisia, I really enjoyed looking at all those different breasts and reading what their 'owners' felt about them. I don't think I've seen very many naked breasts at all. Just my mother's really. As my breasts are pretty similar I guess I've never really worried about mine, although I was initially a bit sad when babies put paid to their perkiness :)

I'll probably ask dd if she'd like to have a look, just to get an idea of the huge range of shapes and sizes (she's 11 and just started to really develop).

TeiTetua · 27/10/2011 17:49

Seeing a message from VikingLady reminds me of a cartoon I saw long ago. There was a partly-dressed woman drawn politely from behind, evidently preparing to play the role of Brunnhilde, you know, from Wagner. And she had an electric fire going. And she was holding up a heavy-gauge metal bra in front of it.

VikingLady · 27/10/2011 15:43

I agree with SamhainSausageFruit that you don't really see many real boobs. I'm 31, and I have seen my mum's (who has fab, natural but Page3 style boobs still), a few on a topless beach on holiday, but only the classically attractive girls went topless, and that's it. Films - you only see actresses, who are partly cast on their appearance. If their boobs are not up to standard, they get a body double.

I realised mine were not hideous when I asked my boyfriend about his various exes, and this was affirmed when I watched real life childbirth programmes once I got pregnant.

Before that, I thought I was the only person with triangular, south-pointing boobs.

Shakey1500 · 26/10/2011 14:08

To be honest I'm a bit puzzled also why having reached the age of 25 having never seen a real pair of breasts anywhere (films etc?) but however strange, then ok? But also, why entitle the thread "tits"? Isn't that considered a derogatory word for breasts?