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SamhainSausageFruit · 26/10/2011 01:12

I remember at ante-natal classes when I was expecting DD, they showed the BF video - anyone seen that one?

And I was totally struck by how the breasts all looked, well, 'imperfect'.

Then I realised something: I had never seen real breasts before.

Only inflated implant chests in magazines etc.

Up until that day I thought I had freakish deformed boobs which only surgery could "cure".

I was 25 and thought I was hideously deformed. Makes me feel sad and angry, isn't this the worst kind of misogyny, engendering self-loathing in women, turning us against our own bodies?

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Bunbaker · 28/10/2011 20:04

Wow! All these deleted threads. I agree with Samhain. You don't usually see "normal" breasts on public view. I admit that the gallery was a bit of an eye opener because you just don't see breasts like those on the beach - and I am pretty well travelled. I have never seen any like those at the swimming pool either. Perhaps these women hide away?

It is obvious that the media have a lot to answer for by portraying breasts as only being round and perky.

I have never been more than an A cup, and pregnancy and breastfeeding didn't change me at all. I don't have enough for gravity to affect me and I only wear a bra so that I don't look like a boy Sad

SinicalSal · 28/10/2011 19:55

see what happens at half term and the kids start looking up naughty words on google

KRITIQ · 28/10/2011 16:14

I think the point here is that there is a mahoosive variation in the normal, natural appearance of women's breasts, regardless of age, regardless of whether or not they've been pregnant or breastfed, etc. Appearance has little to do with feeding function or their potential for sexual arousal or to arouse others. However, we've been fed this junk line that they should look like x and if they don't, you are inadequate. Women spend thousands on lotions, potions, creams, underwear contraptions and even surgery to achieve some "ideal" because they "believe" this will make them more attractive, more feminine, more acceptable. It's just crap, pure crap.

Rollon2012 · 28/10/2011 16:03

their right porcelaine its pregnancy that makes you sag, the increased size and tenderness at the begining, to calm down then increase again for bf will have an impact.

HerdOfTinyElephants · 28/10/2011 15:54

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StewieGriffinsMom · 28/10/2011 15:33

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SinicalSal · 28/10/2011 14:02

right

porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:58

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PlentyOfPubeGardens · 28/10/2011 13:55

What's disgusting about long-term breastfeeding? Confused

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 28/10/2011 13:53

You do need to feel good about yourself and it can really really knock your confidence if when your body starts to age and sag ... which is one very good reason not to tie up your self-worth with your appearance - you need to find more enduring qualities to like about yourself like, you know, stuff you're good at, things about your personality etc. Must be hard though if you're stuck with a bloke who compares you to page 3. You have my sympathy.

porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:47

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chibi · 28/10/2011 13:45

poor old porceleine

still at least you've still got your megaboobs, eh

porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:44

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PlentyOfPubeGardens · 28/10/2011 13:40

What's not nice?

Saying I must have spaniel's ears! I'd be offended if I didn't feel so sorry for you.

Telling Toffee she's 'a little disgusting' is deeply unpleasant too as it goes!

chibi · 28/10/2011 13:37

do you find having such amazing boobs is adequate compensation for the rest of you?

i would think they would need to be able to fire lasres/fight crime/do a mean michael caine impersonation

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 28/10/2011 13:35

page 3 is hardly representative of the average woman's boobs though is it? As you say, they're mostly teenagers and they have been chosen because their breasts (and bodies in general) fit into the narrow, male-defined idea of female beauty.

porceleine, you have a very funny idea of the 'basic rules of politeness.' I feel really sad that so many women are put off BF because of 'horror stories' which are just that: stories - i.e. not true. I have absolutely no problem with women who choose not to BF but all women should be able to make that decision fully armed with the facts.

FWIW, mine looked pretty good up until about 10 years ago (loooong time after I finished BF). Age and gravity have a lot to answer for.

porceleine · 28/10/2011 13:34

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Toffeefudgecake · 28/10/2011 13:28

Porceleine - I just want to point out that I breastfed for five years (three years for my first child and two for my second) and my breasts look better than ever. The changes of pregnancy and breastfeeding were only temporary. It's a real shame you believed that not breastfeeding was the only way to keep your breasts looking the way you felt they should look.

SinicalSal · 28/10/2011 13:26

that's not nice porceleine

I didn't know that about page 3. Though 18 yr old pointy uppy boobs aren't the norm, either, even if they are natural.

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NhameCage · 28/10/2011 13:20

Less of the devotee please. Hate page 3 but worth pointing out, in the context of the op, that it does have natural (18 year old, pointy uppy) boobs. And everyone has seen page 3.