Can you be a feminist housewife?

Absolutely you can. I don't think it's 'not working' either. If you have children, they need to be cared for by someone, and invariably the housework needs to be done. Someone would be doing those things if not you. They are work. It is quite shitty that they are not better valued, but that is not your fault.

The issue of whether you feel fulfilled or fed up is separate, and if you feel fed up, it's not un-feminist but nor is it great for your self esteem.

I see caring for your own children as a very feminist thing to do and the very best thing for your children up to school age (whether it's a mother or father doing it) .
I've never worked full time (I'm 45) and have no wish for a career, what I am is an equal partner in my marriage, I feel very fortunate to have the choice not to have to work - we've never seen it as DH's money, it's our money and me being at home for the majority of the time has enabled him to further his career, which has benefitted all of us.

I also don't think there is anything intrinsically wrong with not working if you don't have to, same as when I read of lottery winners continuing their work I don't think there is anything strange about that either.

Unfortunately for many people at the moment the way everything is structured means that some choices are easier than others, even if it's not what they'd do in an ideal world.

The shame is that childcare is not recognised as the hard work with long hours that it is.

I think the big feminist issue is if society expects women to be only housewives, or if working for wages (in some not very well respected job, most likely) to be doing all the housewifely things in addition. If there's a genuine choice of roles, then it's no longer a problem. But we can all think about what we have genuinely chosen for ourselves, versus what we've been pushed into and what we've slipped into because it was the easiest thing at the time.

Yes - you can argue that women make different life choices than men, and those choices campn be equally valid.

yes you can, there are lots on here.
Children have to be looked after. There is something wrong with the fact that women are disproportionately encouraged to do it (and men discouraged) or that women often end up doing it when they don't really want to, but that doesn't mean there is something unfeminist about a woman choosing to do it.

Well I say "have" but she's dead now!

It's not a competition!

If you are feeling bored and lacking in choice you could do something? OU is very good.

I have a female relative of that generation (born 1907) who was a doctor as well