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You don't have to be feminist to post here, but it helps...

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MrsReasonable · 26/08/2011 17:50

I've noticed that whenever a 'non-feminist' view is brought up, there are occasionally some posts along the lines of 'this is a feminist board, why come here if you aren't...', etc.

Genuine question - is this a feminist board, or a board about feminism? Obviously the majority of posters are feminist, but I'm not sure whether that is because feminists (surprise surprise) like discussing feminism, or because it is seen as a feminist 'safe haven'?

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Tyr · 29/08/2011 23:37

"The small cock shake down" could be your first single. You could even have a dance to go with it.

stripeybump · 29/08/2011 23:36

Someone posted earlier about rad fem seeing other feminist views as watered down and tickling the edges. I see how this affects this board. It must be frustrating if you're rad fem, but it doesn't mean other feminists are wrong.

People self-identifying as feminist are frequently called rape apologists, MRAs, colluders with the patriarchy and so on on here. There are still people who seem to not see the problem and assume that people are angry at feminism rather than at the way some posters attack.

I see it a bit like a Tory messageboard which has some extreme right-wingers who post and if you don't agree with their extreme views, it's because you're a pansy and not a proper patriot.

People don't always want to be educated, or to learn, or anything other than participate in a discussion on here. It's not an invitation for conversion to the rad fem cause.

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LRDTheFeministDragon · 29/08/2011 23:08

I'm trying to remember when and why I got sucked in actually .. no memory!

NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 23:03

LRDTheFeministDragon Oh, similar to me then - thought you were a real old hand Wink

LRDTheFeministDragon · 29/08/2011 22:46

desperate - FWIW, I haven't 'known' this lot for more than I think 6-8 months. I've not been on MN that long either.

Tyr · 29/08/2011 22:29

SinicalSal,

"coven of woe" is a corker and if any of you ever start an all-female heavy metal band, you got yourselves a name.

NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 22:23

scottishmummy Sorry, I think I misread what you were saying - please ignore my last post Blush

NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 22:22

scottishmummy I'm happy that people here were trying to help me by suggesting sections I would find good to post on.

SinicalSal · 29/08/2011 22:21

you're most welcome SM

SinicalSal · 29/08/2011 22:20

LRD thanks Blush but I do get muddled quite a bit but as desperate says the level of debate is really high - really helps to clarify what it is I think I mean...if you follow me.
there's room for all levels here, as it should be.

scottishmummy · 29/08/2011 22:19

any time i want told im anti-feminist,
what about da men
derailer
or told not to post on a particular topic
...i just mosey on over to feminist board

i do snigger at the inflated sense of importance that some do genuinely feel they can instruct posters which part of an open discursive forum to post on

and no i dont stop contributing or posting just because someone no likey

NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 22:18

If you have all "known" each other for a long time, then what looks like infighting for a lurker isn't really, I suppose. Oh, there must be loads of people like me, reading these threads and wondering, just wondering if they dare post.

If you say 'but women should really be careful what they wear' then yeah - someone will maybe say 'well, really?'
It's a better area than most for challenging rape myths and sexism and so on, but that's probably obvious from the title.

SybilBeddows · 29/08/2011 22:16

Tyr - I love the archaic capital letters in the bit you quoted. Is there a chance he might be an accidental time-traveller from the early 18th century? It would explain his discomfort with modern gender politics.

LRDTheFeministDragon · 29/08/2011 22:16

I felt thick on the Dr Who thread. I had no idea DH's anatomy was so vulerable to the ravages of time. Sad

LRDTheFeministDragon · 29/08/2011 22:15

desperate - I don't think it's usually as fighty as it has been lately, FWIW. There's someone who's just got banned for pissing around, so some of what looks like confrontation was trollery.

As far as 'infighting' goes ... well, we're all different people with a pretty wide range of views, it's not really 'in' fighting IMO, if that makes sense?

UsingMainlySpoons · 29/08/2011 22:14

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NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 22:12

SinicalSal Thanks, I will try to :) It's just the level of debate on here is so high at times that I feel a bit thick! Not that this is a criticism, it's good to have intelligent debate.

LRDTheFeministDragon · 29/08/2011 22:12

Shurrup sal, you're a clear thinker.

NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 22:11

UsingMainlySpoons Serious is fine, it's just the infighting and confrontations that make me nervous. Maybe I need a thicker skin :)

SinicalSal · 29/08/2011 22:11

It's quite refreshing that it's some other section getting slated today.

NotQuitesoDesperate - i'm not that well read nor a particularly clear thinker but I post anyway as I strongly believe feminism is for everyone, and if people roll their eyes and think How Obvious I don't care. I'm not malicious or on a wind up and that's what annoys people here. So I say get stuck in.

Tyr that's hilarious. I particularly like 'coven of woe'

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NotQuiteSoDesperate · 29/08/2011 22:08

Thanks - didn't realise about the feminist chat thread. Will have a look at that too.

OMG, realising that my MN addiction is going to get worse. My Twitter friends thought I had died because I have not been on there in ages!

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