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Abuse and control - it's OK if it's in the interests of preserving monogamy...

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solidgoldbrass · 12/08/2011 19:52

Inspired by this thread OK women telling other women to put up with abuse because 'you need to work at relationships if you have children' is not uncommon, but the one that gets me every time is this idea that abuse, control, totally unreasonable behaviour is all fine if you are worried that your partner might breach monogamy.

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HandDivedScallopsrgreat · 12/08/2011 20:11

I agree SGB. Relationships shouldn't be that hard work (especially not for that length of time). I must admit I don't understand some people's investment in wanting to keep other people's relationships going if they are unhappy (which this woman clearly was). One thing the world doesn't need is another bad relationship!

And the control thing is so significant in that thread as is the behaviour by her partner who could act how he liked and felt entitled to judge her on her previous sexual life. I mean wtf!! Angry

Portofino · 12/08/2011 20:11

I have been reading the Equality Illusion after many recommendations here. Dittany, I owe you a big apology for my wanky ignorance. You have taught me a lot. This book should be set text in ALL schools.