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Heteromonogamy is really just another way to waste women's time, isn't it?

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solidgoldbrass · 08/08/2011 00:13

All those books, articles, courses on how to Find The One, Make Him Commit, Keep It Exciting - keeping women occupied with the Perfect Relationship means they don't have time to do anything interesting with their lives.

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swallowedAfly · 08/08/2011 08:09

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TrillianAstra · 08/08/2011 08:07

What Fork said.

Being heterosexual(or homosexual, or bisexual, etc) is something that you are more than something that you do, so it can't be a waste of time.

Being monogamous is only a waste of time if you are not getting what you want out of it (and then you have to decide if it is the state of monogamy or the person who you are being monogamous with that is the problem).

TheFrozenMBJ · 08/08/2011 08:02

I agree with both Fork and SGB. It's not heteromonogamy itself which is the problem it is the cultural expectation that women should obsess about it that is.

ForkInTheForeheid · 08/08/2011 07:52

Ah, but sgb that's not heteromonogamy itself, it's the obsessing over perfection in a relationship and getting the right man that's the problem. It's perfectly possible to be monogamous and heterosexual without buying into that imo.

snowmama · 08/08/2011 07:31

Yep, and it requires a phenomenal amount of time and emotional energy.

Agreed about the magazines too...

PeterSpanswick · 08/08/2011 00:21

I've always found it strange how men's "lifestyle" magazines (not the lads mags) are full of hobbies and gadgets and women's are full of dating and relationship advice, as though men are some kind of pastime for us.