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Man said disposable nappies should be banned

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rainbowtoenails · 17/07/2011 21:36

He was a friend of a friend so I bit my lip but I found it quite patronising for a man to be lecturing women on this. He has dcs but I dont think he's changed that many nappies. Easy, then for him to say disposables should be illegal. I tried reusables but it didnt work out for various reasons. I felt guilty about using disposables but they were very liberating. Im no fan of P&G but I think banning them would be a real step back for womens liberation.

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goodasgold · 19/07/2011 20:51

This is just like a man saying that a woman should visit all the local shops, butcher, baker, greengocer, take up half the morning, just because she is a sahm.

It is a feminist issue when women are doing the changing and washing. And food buying.

goodasgold · 19/07/2011 20:28

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HandDivedScallopsrgreat · 19/07/2011 20:00

I use reusables and DH does his fair share of nappy changes. I have probably done more nappy changes than him if we are counting though as I was on ML for a year. Now, I would say we roughly share DS's care on a week to week basis (I say roughly because the number of days each of us is in sole charge changes from week to week due to DHs shifts.)

I realise I am in the minority and if I was a single parent/didn't have a washing machine/didn't have anywhere to dry etc I probably wouldn't consider reusables. As blackcurrants said upthread there is a tipping point where it becomes viable and not too much of an extra burden. For me, the fact that I have help with that and other chores around the house makes it a lot easier. I use disposables when they are more convenient e.g. on holiday.

And don't worry SAF you haven't offended me - you did make me chuckle with "martyr" though - I am probably the least martyrish most lazy person you could meet.

TheRealMBJ · 19/07/2011 19:48

I think there is truth in what you say sAf, but then again, I (and most of us) can only really impact on our own small reality. That said, I'm not an evangelical clothbummer Grin and a large reason I use them is because I don't like waste, it goes against my Calvanistic up-bringing, and the look nicer than Pampers.

swallowedAfly · 19/07/2011 19:26

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Debs75 · 19/07/2011 19:24

ok so we are on the dole which means we are both at home. and have limited money.
DP almost exclusively changes ds and changes about a third of dd2 and 3

SybilBeddows · 19/07/2011 19:10

but at the same time, the people I know who are lentil weavery at home also tend to be the ones who are politically engaged with the wider sphere as well, they're not mutually exclusive.

swallowedAfly · 19/07/2011 18:56

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SybilBeddows · 19/07/2011 18:47

if it is the case that women who are keenest are the ones whose dhs don't help it might just be that they're more likely to be SAHMs with husbands who work long hours but bring in enough money for them to have leisure to spend on washing nappies.

it is interesting how these things become part of people's identity though. I saw a forum once where women were putting whether their babies were 'co-sleeping, breastfed, cloth-bummed' in their signatures. While I applaud all the above it was somewhat nauseating to see it repeated after every single post.

celadon · 19/07/2011 18:46

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Riveninside · 19/07/2011 18:42

DH changes 95% of dds nappies...

TheRealMBJ · 19/07/2011 18:42

I dunno, the fact that I don't have to get out of bed before 8 am (well I do but I go back between 6:30 and 8) makes up for the not putting the nappies on a wash Grin

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TheRealMBJ · 19/07/2011 18:36

Nope. Well, sort of Blush. DH will happily change as many dirty or wet nappies as he can when he is home but he won't put them in the wash.

StewieGriffinsMom · 19/07/2011 18:35

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TheRealMBJ · 19/07/2011 18:08

Yy jenny, we all do Smile

celadon · 19/07/2011 17:52

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Riveninside · 19/07/2011 17:51

Hospitals here wont allow cloth. dd was in terries for the first 3 years but everytime she went in we had to buy disposables. And she was in a lot!

jennyvstheworld · 19/07/2011 17:48

Ain't that the truth MBJ! But it's usually shallow or misdirected logic that leads to a lack of validity. Of course, we all know people who have very strong opinons without possessing any experience, knowledge or reasoning Wink

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