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The Myths About Women Who "Cry Rape"

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DontCallMePeanut · 07/07/2011 01:56

From The Telegraph

Sorry, my head's not in the right place to provide any critique of this at the moment, but thought this would interest the members of the feminist section. Will attempt to comment when I have a clearer head.

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DontCallMePeanut · 07/07/2011 10:55

Thank you, slhilly. :) That makes more sense to me (the not in the mood for sexism thing) How can I not be in the mood for feminism, when it's what I believe.

There was a thread on the feminism boards recently, asking if we'd report a rape if we were the victims, given what we know about rape apologists. So many people said "no"

Is anyone any good at maths and what not, here? I've just thought of something. Right, let's say 5% of reported rapes are false allegations. Yet 85% of rapes go unreported. Let's say that remaining 85% were reported, yet no more false allegations were made? What would that take the percentage of false allegations down to?

Also, someone posted on here something the other day, about why people lie about rape (the minority that do) and raised a point that x% had been raped or abused, but were accusing the wrong person, out of fear or whatever. Another x% had mental health issues of some description. I can't remember the exact statistics given, yet, surely if this was made common knowledge, that would help dispel a few rape myths.

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meditrina · 07/07/2011 10:55

What a kindly worded comment. I had been expecting that someone here had the knowledge at their fingertips, given the strongly worded comments from some.

Anyhow, I have found that it is between 5-8% of accusations are false (variability depends on how tightly definitions are applied).

That is enough to be concerning, and shows the issue is not a myth.

LeninGrad · 07/07/2011 10:54

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TheAtomicBum · 07/07/2011 10:51

Peanut, don't be worried about getting anything out if you feel you need to. Sometimes typing things down helps to organise our thoughts into something we can understand. Maybe it will help others, maybe they to will only be able to leave when they are ready. What is more important is that it helps you to understand what you think and feel.

surelynottrue · 07/07/2011 10:49

I thought the problem with rape cases was with bad processing by police, withdrawal of statements and the difficulty getting enough evidence to take to court? not sure on the percentage but don't most rape cases that go to court end in conviction?

slhilly · 07/07/2011 10:46

Meditrina, the interwebs has this marvellous thing called Google. Google has this marvellous thing called Google Scholar. Go knock yourself out doing your research.

slhilly · 07/07/2011 10:45

SGB: the problem is, publicity as well as transparency can be important to justice, especially in the case of rape. The publicity of the John Worboys case was fundamental to establishing that he was a serial rapist, as other victims came forward and testified. What is needed is for newspapers to abide by both the spirit and letter of the contempt laws.

meditrina · 07/07/2011 10:43

I would do the research, if someone could point me in the right direction.

The thread title was about false allegations - to me, that indicates intent ie deliberately making a false statement. Another poster lined a number of cases from the papers where this has happened. It clearly does exist. And it does have consequences, both for the individuals involved in the specific case, and in opinion forming (ie belief sets about accusers). These are important, but somwhat separate from cases where there is no reason to postulate malice on behalf of the accuser.

Not guilty verdicts may (or may not) be reached for other reasons. But it is not a myth that rape accusations can be made for malicious reasons. What is absent from this thread is any information about how prevalent such malicious claims are.

slhilly · 07/07/2011 10:42

DontCallMePeanut, I should also have said: I'm terribly sorry to hear of what happened to you. I think you're amazingly brave and strong to post about both the wider topic and about what happened to you.

Grumpla · 07/07/2011 10:41

Don'tCallMePeanut That's a really good question for people to ask themselves.

People are so, so quick to accept this hateful "They do it for attention" theory that they don't think about the kind of "attention" you get.

Would anyone report a rape, endure hours of (probably not very sympathetic) questioning, medical examinations, knowing that hardly anyone would believe you (certainly not if you had friends/family like moonferret anyway!), knowing that it probably wouldn't even get to court, that if it did you would be cross-examined and have your privacy made public, for fun?!?!?!

Didn't think so. And that is why I would always believe someone if they told me they had been raped.

I just don't think it is something that 99.9999% of people would lie about. And the miniscule fraction that would probably have extremely serious mental health ishoos which I would expect might have manifested themselves in other ways first.

slhilly · 07/07/2011 10:40

DontCallMePeanut, I'm sorry that the thread has not gone the way you (and me, and others) would have wanted. You said: "Maybe I'm just not in the right frame of mind for feminism atm." Honestly, I think what you're not in the mood for is sexism. The response to the OP was about doing down women, not believing them. It had nothing to do with feminism, quite the opposite.

Your question to MoonFerret is a good one. Of course, it assumes MoonFerret is a woman. I think there's a better-than-fair chance that MoonFerret is a man. In which case, there is a particular poignancy to your question about whether MoonFerret would lie about rape.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 07/07/2011 10:39

Lenin: I'm not calling for secret trials, I'm calling for trials to take place in open court without the accused having been already 'convicted' in the media and had his (or her) personal life splattered all over the papers, including any number of wild accusations sent in by people with grudges.

DontCallMePeanut · 07/07/2011 10:38

Thank you, TAB. It might just... I don't have words, atm about it. But it's almost definitely how DS was conceived. I slept with the ex twice around the time DS was conceived. And once was that occassion. And it's closer to what would make sense as the conception date.

Sorry, I'll take this off the thread now. I think I needed to get it out. And maybe puttting it into to context will help some other woman. But that's the only positive element I can think of to it at the moment.

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slhilly · 07/07/2011 10:34

Reflecting on the original article, and linking it to this issue of who we believe. So far, the two women who've dared to step forward and say that DSK has sexually assaulted them have been trashed and further attacked:

  • Tristane Banon has said "I can no longer hear that I am a liar because I haven't made a legal complaint. For eight years I have carried the weight of this incident alone, hearing rumours and lies about me." DSK's lawyers have announced they are counter-suing her for libel.
  • The chambermaid has been repeatedly and publicly vilified as a liar, an illegal immigrant, and a prostitute.
This is as clear an example as you could imagine of women being shown the consequences that await them if they try to fight back against rape. As Susan Xenarios, the head of the rape crisis centre in New York involved in the case has said: DSK is a person of "extreme international power. I don't know how that factors in. The whole thing is very disturbing"
DontCallMePeanut · 07/07/2011 10:34

May I just add, as a side note to Moonferret. During the first year of my degree, I've learnt that, if you provide the right terms, you can find anything you want on the internet, in newspapers and throughout history. It's how research works. If you search for women who lied about rape on the Daily Fail, then you'll get such articles. Search about it on google, and you get the results closest to your search term, which is a bunch of MRA forums. Just because you find something saying we lie about rape, doesn't mean we believe it.

Can I just add, would you llie about rape? If the answer to that is no, then why believe that most people who take a rape case to court would?

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TheAtomicBum · 07/07/2011 10:33

That didn't sound like it was in the right place. It was the answer to your 10.22 post, Peanut.

LeninGrad · 07/07/2011 10:29

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TheAtomicBum · 07/07/2011 10:28

I'm sorry to hear about you're history, Peanut. And I hope that realising helps you in some way. It is terrible that this behaviour goes on, but unfortunately it is not the first time I've seen it.

I'm just glad to here that at least you're away from that now.

DontCallMePeanut · 07/07/2011 10:27

TAB, nope you haven't sounded rape apologist in the slightest. Just the way things started last night. Stupid ol me had been hoping that we'd be united in how positive it was that the article had been covered in such a popular newspaper. And the first post after the OP was trying to prove why we shouldn't believe women who report rape.

Maybe it's me being oversensitive, in the midst of PTSD and the way I got shaken up yesterday on another thread, but it kinda shook me up.

Maybe I'm just not in the right frame of mind for feminism atm. :(

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LeninGrad · 07/07/2011 10:27

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SpringchickenGoldBrass · 07/07/2011 10:25

I think there is something to be said for a law banning the naming of accused criminals until after conviction. Though it is worth bearing in mind that the harm done to both Colin Stagg and Christopher Jefferies, who were wrongly accused of terrible crimes, was mostly done by men(ie newspaper reporters and editors) not women lying about being assaulted. There are always going to be cases of rape where the woman is not lying but the man on trial is innocent because it's the wrong man (ie stranger rape when a man matching the physical decription of the rapist is arrested).

LeninGrad · 07/07/2011 10:24

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slhilly · 07/07/2011 10:23

Moonferret, you need to look to your logic and your conscience. You claim to care about evidence: "If I was ever on a jury for sexual assault trial, the evidence would need to be absolutely overwhelming for me to be convinced."

Yet you freely admit that despite not knowing "what the precise percentage [of false allegations of rape] is you would be "confident of two things. Firstly, a good number of claims will be false (of course the majority never even reach court), and secondly, more than for virtually any other offence as a percentage of the total."

If you really cared about evidence, you would not hold to the position you have taken without some facts to back it up. Instead, you have shown all the hallmarks of someone who is driven by their sexist prejudice to seek confirmatory anecdotes* from women-hating newspapers in support of a morally reprehensible position: attacking rape victims by casting blanket doubt on their credibility as a group. Splutter denial all you want, but as far as I'm concerned if it walks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck. As I said, you need to look to your conscience. This is vile behaviour and you ought to stop.

*Repeat after me: the plural of anecdotes is not data.