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to wonder why I am so bloody UN-feminist??!!

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NunSoQueer · 29/06/2011 23:17

I cannot wait to give up my high-flying city career to be a SAHM

I changed my name when I got married inc my professional name

I think women should really be at home and look after their children

I think there are lots of jobs women should not/can not do e.g. fireman

I envy "kept" women

I am pro-life

Why should women be paid the same if they have had time off to have children and therefore have less experience???

How??!! Why??!! Where do these (very unpopular) views come from? I had a very working class up-bringing, did well, got a great job. Mum was a SAHM - maybe this is the reason?? Waits on my dad hand and foot.

Oddly, only thing that angers me on this subject is stripping/lapdancing - hugely ANTI all of that.

Someone come and drag me into the 21st century....

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LaurieFairyCake · 29/06/2011 23:27

X-posted

Well then for you it's about wanting to be home with your son - in order to 'justify' it (and you don't have to) your making up reasons to.

IWannaGetFiscal · 29/06/2011 23:26

Oh post where you bloody want, am sick of the self appointed PCSOs of the AIBU forum. Don't open the frikkin thread if you don't want to respond to it with any degree of intelligence.

flamegirl77 · 29/06/2011 23:26

Feminism and its precursors have enabled women to enjoy basic rights we take for granted and which many women don't have e.g. the right to own property, power over our own bodies, equal pay for equal work, and many others. Unless you fancy going back to the nineteenth century and renouncing all these rights and others I question whether you are actually 'anti - feminist'.

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NunSoQueer · 29/06/2011 23:23

Oh yes I should've put this in feminism shouldnt I Blush

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LaurieFairyCake · 29/06/2011 23:23

In general I find that people talk about idealistic, Rose tinted futures.

All to distract them from how unfulfilled they are now.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 29/06/2011 23:23

You don't need dragging. But you definitely need to try it out for yourself and discover if the grass is or is not greener on the Stepford Wife side of the fence. There were good reasons why Valium was known as 'mother's little helper'.... and why so many women fought to escape the 'Golden Cage' :)

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NunSoQueer · 29/06/2011 23:22

It's great in that I earn an awful lot of money for relatively little work. I do love my job. I just love my son more!!!

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tethersend · 29/06/2011 23:22

Why not post this on the feminism topic?

You will get some good responses to your points over there.

Not like the drivel I'm spouting at the moment Grin

IWannaGetFiscal · 29/06/2011 23:21

I agree with some of what you have said and disagree with the rest. You are entitled to your own views however, be prepared to be told that you are NOT entitled to your own views.

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NunSoQueer · 29/06/2011 23:21
Grin
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LaurieFairyCake · 29/06/2011 23:21

What strikes me from your post OP is how unhappy you are with your current life. Your thoughts are all about some random time in the future.

If you have such a 'great' job why are you so unfulfilled?

What else do you have NOW, not some future time.

Mare11bp · 29/06/2011 23:20

I don't agree with many of your views, but I don't think YABU.

You just make choices in life, based on your own knowledge experience and ultimately what is best for your family and kids.

For that reason, YADNBU.

Now get back to your WI meeting Grin.

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NunSoQueer · 29/06/2011 23:19

No no I am serious! I promise.

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IWannaGetFiscal · 29/06/2011 23:18

Oh I think I have just given a serious response to what I now think may not be a serious thread. Ah well. Can I have a biscuit?

IWannaGetFiscal · 29/06/2011 23:18

Not sure that makes you UN feminist. Are you not making your own informed choices about your decisions?