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"You need a man to..."

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DontCallMePeanut · 27/06/2011 21:05

Well, according to my darling mother, I "need a man" to put up a new rail for a new net curtain I'm putting up in my living room... Ahem. I have the choice of, for now, asking my brother in law or one of my exes to do so... Apparently. I told her all I need to do is borrow, or maybe even buy a drill, and she responded with "but it's not the done thing for a woman"

Just wondering what corkers you've heard recently?

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Chrysanthemum5 · 27/06/2011 21:21

Peanut - sorry you had those comments from the people who should have been supporting you

Chrysanthemum5 · 27/06/2011 21:20

Yup he belonged to a church that said men were head of the household and women had to obey. I asked my sister if she really agreed with it and she said a man should consider his wife's views but the final decision was his and had to be followed! They have split up now and my sister is in a much stronger state of mind. In her/my defence we grew up in a very abusive life so it's taken us a while to set our boundaries and expect respect.

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DontCallMePeanut · 27/06/2011 21:19

:( Chrysantheum.... IL's and sometimes our own families are a bit shit sometimes... Quotes from the first time I left abusive ex-P

"If you hadn't been breastfeeding, ex-P wouldn't have felt so left out." (From mother)
"Grrr, I'm not suprised he hit you!" (From DB after an arguement)
"Well, I think you're over-reacting by pressing charges" (Again, from mother)

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buzzsore · 27/06/2011 21:19

Oh, tell her you're buying this nice pink drill. Grin

thisisyesterday · 27/06/2011 21:17

oh i often "need a man..." to do jobs i'd rather not do myself Grin

i seem to (thankfully) not get much of the genuine "ooooh you need a man to do that" kind of stuff from anyone actually... i wonder why? maybe i look very manly and capable myself? Confused

SinicalSal · 27/06/2011 21:14

Shock Chrysanthemum

Chrysanthemum5 · 27/06/2011 21:14

Not quite the same but when I split with my abusive, controlling ex-H my (thankfully now ex) BIL kindly explained to me that my marriage might have survived if I had been better at obeying my husband. Fortunately my DH is apparently willing to overlook my shocking lack of obeying!