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Help me explain to my friend why this is really wrong

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iMemoo · 25/06/2011 19:24

A group of women in my town are organising an event to raise money for charity. They are holding a bikini car wash! Hmm So basically people (I suspect mainly men) are going to pay them to wash their car whilst they are dressed in skimpy bikinis. My friend is taking part in it. I am horrified by the whole thing. I can't believe that this group of woman are choosing to objectify themselves like this. There are a million things they could have done to raise money and yet they choose to do it by basically getting their tits out for the lads!! I have tried to explain why it is wrong to my friend but I'm just not getting through to her.

I know in my head what I think and why this is wrong but I just can't articulate it. How do I explain to my friend why this is so wrong. Please help me find the right words!

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IWouldNotCouldNotWithAGoat · 25/06/2011 22:15

I agree with SGB. You have made your point and I'm afraid you are now going to have to let it go.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 25/06/2011 21:58

Look, Memoo is not this woman's boss, not this woman's owner, and now she has expressed her disapproval she should shut the fuck up and leave her friend alone. Or be prepared to have the friend express herself even more forcefully. People are allowed to disagree with you, you know, and to tell you to keep your opinions to yourself when it is their bodies, their choices and their lives you are trying to meddle with.

SinicalSal · 25/06/2011 21:43

But Dittany that's what everyone else is telling her. She'll just think iMemoo is talking sense at last.

dittany · 25/06/2011 21:39

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SinicalSal · 25/06/2011 21:26

Sure SGB. Or perhaps she really does think OP is jealous. Wouldn't be the first time someone who speaks against commodifying sex was told that. Perhaps poor ol iMemoo can't keep a man either?

LittleWhiteWolf · 25/06/2011 20:19

I had a friend like this. She occasionally worked for Spearmint Rhino, handing out leaflets wearing a promotional catsuit that zipped open at the front to reveal her cleavage. When she told me I was horrified, but she just reacted like your friend iMemoo and basically told me I was a prude and jealous that I didn't have the figure to pull off the look Hmm

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 25/06/2011 20:14

You have told her your opinion and she doesn't agree with it. So leave her alone. She's probably only come out with the 'jealousy' retort because you have been refusing to accept that she actually knows her own mind and doesn't agree with you.

Indigojohn · 25/06/2011 20:06

She must either have a fantastic body or amazing self confidence!

Quite apart from the clear feminist issues, I can't imagine wearing so little in public and not at a swimming pool or beach!

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iMemoo · 25/06/2011 20:03

You're probably right. I'm just so frustrated by it.

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AwesomePan · 25/06/2011 19:52

I wouldn't bother in the short term, given that response. She's offering her body for sexual gratification and money, and if she doesn't want to/cant see how that compromises her spirit/self-worth you are on a uphill struggle.

Perhaps it's worth drawing analogies at a later date if she ever gets snippy and judgemental about prostitution, or 'easy girls'.

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iMemoo · 25/06/2011 19:44

I have mentioned that to her but she just laughs it off and says it only a bit of fun. She just keeps telling me I'm a prude and she even suggested that I'm just jealous of her slim figure, she really doesn't get it at all.

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dittany · 25/06/2011 19:36

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