Anyone on MN *never* been flashed at?

I've been flashed at once.

DH has been groped inappropriately in a crowd by a male.

No - but am v short-sighted so might have missed it. Have been groped by weirdo, though - at the Ideal Home Exhibition of all places!

I've been flashed at at least four times - once in St James' park, once by a guy in the field next to my house (when I was 11 or 12), twice while living abroad (being blonde and blue-eyed attracted the wrong sort of attention). Also been groped a couple of times (Tokyo subway at rush-hour - you can't move, let alone see who's doing it).

I didn't react to any of it, but also never reported any of it. Later wondered if I should have, particularly the guy in the field next to my house - he was not just flashing but wanking, and I was pretty young.

Three times. First time I was about 12. Train station. Next time I was doing the backpacking thing in Europe and an old guy was half hidden in the bushes wanking and looking at me. Last time I was in my mid-twenties and a really young guy dropped his trousers and just stood there looking pleased. Early morning too.
Never reacted at all to any of them.
As for being felt up in bars - plenty. My friends and I were also abused in the street when we were about 14 by a bunch of guys who groped us. That was by far the most frightening. The fuckers.

never

I have never been flashed.
Maybe it's a rural/urban thing? RInder's life sounds very rural, mine is v urban.

Never - what rate were you expecting?

I've never been flashed at.

Many years ago I was walking down a narrrow street in Paris when a young man on the back of a moped slowed down, leaned across and pinched my bottom.
Nowadays he'd have to swerve to avoid hitting it.

Never been flashed at. Or groped.

Then again if a man were wanking under a bridge I probably just wouldn't notice, I tend to walk along in a world of my own.

Rindercella I've also been flashed at many a time. I was always told by my mother that these men are harmles and pathetic although when I was followed down the road late at night by a man opening and closing his raincoat (like a comedy sketch) I was quite frightened.

Most of my friend haven't had any 'flashing' or men masturbating experiences and so I wonder why I have.

I was flashed at on the northern line escalater, tottenham ct rd. He'd followed us from when we got on after school the git, and it was 'active' flashing too. bastard.

I was just thinking that! What a great first line.

Thread, you just made me laugh out loud!!

I have been driving down the A34 in the early morning on my way to work and seen some guy standing on the bridge wanking.

Honestly, you'd think I was seeking them out. I really, really am not.

Why men want to expose their cocks is beyond me. And I really do agree that it can be the start of something more serious (although I think a grown man getting his erect penis out to a small child is very serious indeed).

"The first time I got flashed at was in 1981, the day of the Royal Wedding."

--That is such a wonderful sentence that you have to write a novel and use it as your opening line. Or an autobiography or something. A Brief History of Pricks or somesuch.

I've seen someone exposing themselves with face covered too, I was about 13 cycling down a country lane and he was standing in a field with trousers down and jumper over his head masturbating. I never told anyone, and began to think I had imagined it. Even at that tender age I shouted 'is that all you've got?' or something along those lines. Fucking weirdo.

I have seen more flashed cocks than probably I have seen from my own choosing. The first time I got flashed at was in 1981, the day of the Royal Wedding. That was a bit of a shock (I was 11, with my friend and we were out riding our ponies). After that they came thick and fast (um, excuse any pun there - none intended).

I have been flashed at in woods, on trains; in England, abroad; just about everywhere. Doing lots of horse riding - thereby being in woods a lot - probably was a big reason, but not exclusively so. There was even some horrible man who used to strip and stand in front of his window wanking off when I was leaving school. I ended up telling my brother and he & one of his friends went and gave him a fright whilst he was at it.

Jesus, I just remembered, I even worked for a convicted flasher once in Italy. He never flashed at me, but sure as hell he used to be a peeping tom....I always wondered why he used to go up to the flat opposite mine and a couple of months later the realisation dawned.....

Perhaps I am a flasher magnet?

Sorry, meant to say 'another reason'.

The reason it's not a laughing matter is because some flashers escalate their behaviour to sexual assault. Not all, of course, but my understanding is that it's quite common for a lot of more serious offenders to have started off with 'just' flashing. So I think the police do take it more seriously now.

No, although I did catch a man wanking under some stairs on the beach once, and did see a drunk man begging with his testicles dangling out the bottom of some very skimpy shorts - I'm guessing he didn't realise?

I was going to say no but then I remembered that a 'friend' had flashed me with intent iyswim when I was sleeping over at a gfs house after a party.

And been felt up on the tube. Twice. Am waiting for it to happen again so that the much older me can shout the place down.

I was flashed at waiting for a bus in Maidenhead

Old bloke with his cock hanging out of his flies

He wanted me to go home with him so that his son could 'sort me out'

I must have been 18 but looked much younger at that age

I wasn't very impressed, told him to 'put it away, dear'

I haven't been flashed. Have seen a bloke masturbating in the bushes by our hockey field though.

I can remember the first time I was harassed in the street though. I was walking home from school age 12 in my uniform & a man shouted 'nice tits' out of the car window. I went home & cried.

Hazey, that sounds terrifying. The stocking in particular must have made it seem ultra threatening.

I'm glad there are people here that haven't been flashed at. I have, a couple of times.

Perhaps the 'comedy' reaction is partly a way of defusing the threat and humiliation by being scathing and belittling about the perpetrator? It isn't just that, though. There is also a failure to take the upset seriously.