"Fear" of men

Out of 27 of his older works, 5 have breasts, two of these are women over 50, possibly three. Of new painting several of the models are 40+ and none are what I would call conventional women, or conventially appreciated (i.e. large) breasts. what are you on?

Huh?

Well by all accounts it was her leading the particular sex experiment, but I don't really want to go into that - its just sad that he was pegged as a potential paedophile when he manifestly isn't. As for Internet policy, it would certainly usually allow art and magazine articles, they have both a common sense policy over personal use, and a bloody great Fine Art department!!

Well that is a bit snide - its about the female form not sordid wank fodder - he has done a beautiful one of a friend of his who has had a masectomy. Its awful that his work has been criticised in this way - he has some really beautiful works, Drop, Witness, Dead of Night, Lifeline are all immediate emotional reactions for me. He does male nudes as well, but a lot of his work is about female strength in seemingly fragile situations its quite beautiful.

Has he checked if he has legal cover with any insurance he has to see if they fund employment cases? Though if he broke his employer's Internet Acceptable Use policy, then tough.

And heh at the gay nazi fetish study group. You couldn't make it up, could you?

He had no money, sadly, he was not paid very much A friend of mine has offered to lend some money so we are hoping.

sorry astride

Has he instructed a lawyer?

Painting is here: www.neilmoore.co.uk/new_paintings_4.html called Astride.

oh and also it was only the one article - and he read it for less than 3 mins.

for the record he was embarrassed about the AS article - I know why he was reading it though - he had just hooked up with a new GF - I bet they were going to try it that night and he was just checking up (bless...)

BTW a few years ago I went out with a guy who used to work out a lot at home, and I would quite often go round and there would be holes in the wall and there was a permanently cracked window in the kitchen. I talked to my friends who said that he obviously had rage issues. How mortified was I when after lots of paranoid questioning he said 'oh hang on, this is the 'am I a psycho?' set of questions isn't it. Turned out the crack in the window in the kitchen was from a cast iron pan that he kept standing up in the drainer only for it to fall when the washing machine was on, and his work-out technique involved throwing dumbells from one hand to the other whislt dropping to his knees and then standing up - the dents were from when he missed the catch! -- mind you working out when you are a bit drunk is a bit Mel Gibson..

Well I think that my judgement that my friend is a nice guy is obviously part of the information I am using! What is crazy is that at the same employer there is a gay nazi fetish study group sanctioned by the University, and there is more explicit imagery published on their website than that he is accused of, and there are many theses published with nudity, self-mutilation, sex, fetishes (eg I found one with 'erotic defecation' discussed) etc etc. all the examples there are published by female academics. I do think there is a fear of maleness that is becoming quite stifling I find myself constantly surprised at the 'don't go there', 'don't go in alone', 'make sure the door is open' statements that happen - I feel so disheartened when I see friends of mine, especially the guy mentioned above fell really ashamed about almost anything they do.

HerBex that's very true. Until I ended up in a DV relationship, I had never encountered any sexual harassment or experienced an assault, and I had never come across anything I perceived as sexist or hostile attitude. My own father was a good man, as are most of the men in my (now very small) family. However, once I became a 'victim' my perceptions changed radically.

I got out and I'm not troubled by aggressive men any more, including my XP because I have gone to great lengths to ensure that he cannot abuse me or our DC or even just make a nuisance of himself. However, now that I've got my 'eye' in I am genuinely shocked at the number of men I come across who are either horribly abusive or simply just chauvinistic and controlling. Worse still are the master manipulators whose partners don't even realise what's being done to them (I only recognise it because I know what I am looking for having taken great pains to educate myself enough to not fall into an unequal relationship again in the future).

No, most men are not like this. But an alarmingly large minority are and FWIW I see signs that the current generation of lads in their late teens seem to be worse than my own generation (mid 30s), although the ones that are not are truly lovely.

Yes I agree that personal experience is very important in forming attitudes.

Agree with madwomans post upthread.

I also think if you were brought up with a dad who wasnt a good man, or had experiences of bad men in childhood then you will grow up and repeat these patterns and it will seem like there are loads of 'bad' men. However if you are brought up with experiences the other way round it will seem like there are hardly any 'bad' men as you never/rarely encounter them ime.

I just dont feel scared by it though. Here its normal for girls/women to walk round on their own at night 3/4am, mostly very skimpily dressed. I just live by no point in worrying something could happen, you could get run over by a car but you arent going to stop doing stuff are you? I do agree its more likely to be someone you know tbh.

It's not that small a minority.

1 in 4 women get sexually assaulted or raped in their life. Sexual offenders are repeat offenders, but it's not all the same tiny group of very busy guys...

Nice to pretend it's the odd bad apple though, it's comforting and reassuring...

I agree with other posters who say they wouldnt be scared. I am used to walking round at night, often alone in hot pants, mini skirts and even bikini tops before. I have never once felt intimidated or scared tbh.

Also I wouldnt in anyway be scared if a man changed my DDs nappy. I work with children and have accounted this attitude before and think its quite prejudiced tbh. If you are in a decent nursery then there would be no chance to be alone with child long enough to touch them/take pics and in all the nurseries I have worked in the bathroom is accessible so everyone can see what is going on in there.

I dont understand a fear of men at all, and have never had a reason to be scared of men. Men are all different, and I dont feel scare of 50% of the population just because a small minority are not very nice.