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Female sexuality

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neepsntatties · 06/06/2011 10:27

I have been thinking about this recently as I have become increasingly aware that I am totally disconnected from it. Everything I know about sex comes from a male perspective. My father had porn in the house, my early experiences were horrible, I have just started reading some extracts of Dworkin and although I don't totally get it all there is a lot in there that I feel I recognise if that makes sense. I don't know how to unpick years of seeing sex through the porn lense I guess (not that I ever watch porn but every representation/expectation I have experiences seems to come from that place). Where do you even start?

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StellaSays · 07/06/2011 14:16

Don't listen to Dworkin, she is mad, fully mad in her opinions on sex IMO. I have studied feminism and female sexuality and you would do a lot better to be reading some more moderate stuff. The magazine Scarlet, I have found to be great for catering to women's sexuality free from the patriarchal crap you find in cosmo. If you want to look at some light stuff that celebrates the diverse nature of female sexuality then thats where you want to look. Dworkin wouls have us all conforming to a very narrow view of what sort of sex is acceptable.

aliceliddell · 07/06/2011 10:07

Don't think you're alone. There are lots of books out there, you might want to try the old ones: Shere Hite (God I love that name), Betty Dodson, Nancy Friday, Gail Chester are names I remember, i'm sure there are more recent ones probably better. My friend (no, really) got 'Becoming Orgasmic' (author?) and said it worked! but she was knackered and temporarily lost the use of her right wrist...Wink