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I'm posting this on here because I hope you'll agree with me

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MarionCole · 22/05/2011 17:37

DSD lives with us. It's her 15th birthday today and her mother has bought her a Ladyshave for her birthday.

This upsets me. DSD was mortified when she opened it. If DSD decides that she wants to conform to the expectation that she should shave her legs, then surely that is for her to decide in her own time?

Or am I being unreasonable?

(I would never actually post this in AIBU because I suspect most MNers would tell me that I was).

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mrsravelstein · 22/05/2011 18:13

i would definitely assume she had asked for it, as it's a pretty unusual present otherwise. and anyway hasn't your average 15 year old girl already been shaving her legs (or deciding not to) for about 5 years already?

WowOoo · 22/05/2011 18:10

Perhaps safer than a razor too.

I remember using my mum's razor for the first time and cutting myself bby accident. Think I was a similar age.

Don't be upset for her. It means she's growing up which is sad/happy. Hopefully she won't want to use it for some time yet.

SardineQueen · 22/05/2011 18:08

Good point re she might have asked for it.

What do you think OP?

catsareevil · 22/05/2011 18:07

Maybe she had asked her mum for one, and was just embarrased to be opening it.

I would have assumed it was for legs/underarms. Does that make me really out of touch with teenage grooming habits? Grin

AuntieMonica · 22/05/2011 17:58

YANBU

the gift that keeps on giving eh?

what a message to send, yup, time to admit all these things that have happened to your body lately, it's made you ugly......you need to do something about it.

maybe she'll get a boob job for her 16th Hmm

SardineQueen · 22/05/2011 17:51

Confused @ embarrassed about everyone knowing she has hair?

I am interested that OP assumed shaver was for legs and first respondent assumed that it was for genitals.

Also interested that anyone would think 15yo girls would be showing each other their shaven genitals and bullying ones who weren't shaved.

What is the world coming to?

I think YANBU BTW. Personally I think that if a girl decides to shave, pluck, or wax whatever bit then it's up to her to instigate it by buying the stuff or asking for it. I don't think it is right for people like parents to instigate it.

bigbumum · 22/05/2011 17:42

YABU

She was likely mortified becauseshe was embarrased about every one knowing she has hair!
She is likely to be very influenced by peer pressure and is HIGHLY likely to be bullied for having hairy bits, tis a normal passage of teenagerism...

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