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Kind of AIBU

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alphamummy · 29/04/2011 13:46

To find the following saying revolting and vile. and not know how to challenge this kind of attitude?

"Smash her back door in" seen on fb was liked my one of my female friends.

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aliceliddell · 02/05/2011 14:21

Speechless. Just fucking speechless.

SlightlyScrambled · 02/05/2011 07:54

I'd defriend them straight away.
But this is the first time I've heard the expression too. I must lead a very sheltered life.

Most people don't notice being de-friended (is that even a word?) so don't worry Pixie.
I deleted my fb account a couple of months ago and only 1 person emailed me about it since.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 02/05/2011 07:40

do people really use this language? And there is a TV programme about it Shock

SueSylvesterforPM · 30/04/2011 17:10

This reminds of a status a girl posted (we were like 18) on fb

'just had a right sesh, lets just say the back door was unlocked ;)'

it doesnt sound as abusive,

(but pretty cringey)

dittany · 30/04/2011 16:46

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AnnVeronica · 30/04/2011 16:21

I saw two people on fb yesterday who commented along the lines of, 'oh, now PW's married KM he can kick her back door in!' They were women. One is the mother of 4 daughters. I'm just horrified.

AyeRobot · 30/04/2011 12:40

"Kicking" in a door implies that the door was shut and locked in the first place, doesn't it?

That phrase is everywhere on the net.

bronze · 30/04/2011 12:38

googled
celebrity juice if you want to put a complaint in
the whole program is pretty vile and Holly and Ferne are both obviously " being compliant in order to be accepted in the gang."

bronze · 30/04/2011 12:35

It comes from that program that ferne and holly are on.
Makes me feel sick to hear it

dittany · 30/04/2011 12:32

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SueSylvesterforPM · 30/04/2011 09:42

Kicking the back door in describes something non-consensual too.

Oh Just I've heard a couple going 'oh we've kicked the back door in'

dittany · 29/04/2011 22:44

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SueSylvesterforPM · 29/04/2011 20:15

I thought that phrase referred to both consensual anal sex too Hmm I know kicking the back door in does...smash doesc sound more aggressive though

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 16:57

That was just me pondering what a seemingly random comment about a woman would refer to today.
Horrible regardless though.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 16:12

Don't know that it is - I don't understand how anyone can be expected to understand what it refers to

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Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 16:06

Might just de friend to be honest. Dont want to have to read that on my fb.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 16:03

Oh sorry, misread your first post.
You could ask him the same. Or just defriend him anywya

Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 16:02

Its a he. Hes not a major friend. Im such a wuss.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 16:00

ask her if she's aware what it means? And why she has written it?
Then de-friend her (on FB and in RL)

Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 15:59

i want to comment on my friends status now. Not sure what to say. Im sure i will be dismissed as a hystrical woman as well. :(

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 15:26

Surely not
Either way, it's about a woman
If that is what it means it's absolutely disgusting
Is there some offence that covers this?

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 15:26

Hopefully.

SybilBeddows · 29/04/2011 15:23

if so then it is probably high treason and they will be in the Tower before the day is out!

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 15:06

Omg, is this them saying what they'd like to do to the lovely royal bride? Confused