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My husband talked my 3yr old DS out of choosing pink crocs..

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howdidthishappenthen · 20/04/2011 14:19

... and this saddens me. Pink is his favourite colour, and I'd said he could have them. Then DH picked up a pair with him whilst I wasn't there and he comes back with army camo ones. Why does it have to be such a big deal if a preschool boy likes pink ffs? DH is great generally about equality stuff, but has a thing about boys and pink. Sigh. Anyway - not really a point to this post apart from to share in the hope others might see why I'm disappointed. Noone I know IRL would see my point of view at all :-)

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Gemjar · 20/04/2011 16:09

My DH is exactly the same, he's brilliant in most other equality issues, but for some reason he has this thing against pink. I must admit I don't particularly like the colour either and would usually choose it for myself but DH seems positively offended by it. If either of my DS's chose something that was pink, I would probably get it for them, but unfortunately I think my DH would probably act in the same way as the OP's.

It isn't really a big deal, but it is a bit weird to be so judgy at a colour?!

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 20/04/2011 16:02

I'm with you OP.

In fact I had the exact same thought a few hours ago.

I had an electrician in and he was telling me about the train set he bought his neice. She really liked Thomas Tank Engine but he tried to talk her out of it and get her a disney princess set. Why? Just why? Can't girls like Thomas Tank?

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nickelbaalamb · 20/04/2011 15:58
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noodle69 · 20/04/2011 15:57

DS walking around in pink fine. You see all boys in pink things nowadays, no big deal. However any person either grown up or a child wearing crocs is wrong, wrong, wrong Wink

nickelbaalamb · 20/04/2011 15:51

exactly, tortilla.

and I bet there'd be a hck of a lot more boys walking roundin pink clothes if their dads weren't so stupid.

tortilla · 20/04/2011 15:49

I don't even think it is about the pink, it is about overriding your DS's choice. I think it's really important to give young children choice in non-important things like what colour clothes they wear because so much of their lives are decided for them, and they will have even less freedom to choose things like clothes in the future as societal 'rules' come into play. If you had said he could choose, then your DH needed to honour that regardless of what he thought about your DS's choice.

cece · 20/04/2011 14:26

My 7 and half year old is currently wearing a pink t-shirt and pink socks. 'Tis the fashion, don't you know? He is very 'boyish' and really into rugby, football and so on! Plys he practically begged me to get him some pink clothes.

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howdidthishappenthen · 20/04/2011 14:24

He's worn them, he likes them just fine, it's no biggy. But each time we'd walked past the crocs shop he'd asked specifically for pink and I don't see why that had to be the ONLY colour he wasn't allowed. Would have been handy for his sisters too - at the moment 9/10ths of her hand-me-downs are blues or neutrals!

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WorzselMummage · 20/04/2011 14:22

My DS has currently got bright pink toe nails, he loves pink too !

Camo crocs are much sadder on a 3 year old than pink anyway :(

ChristinedePizan · 20/04/2011 14:22

I'd be really pissed off and take them back if your DS hasn't worn them yet. Children have so little control over their lives that allowing them to choose something in their favourite colour is really important.

And that's in addition to the ridiculous behaviour of your husband re pink and boys. Is he worried they'll make your DS gay or something?

mosschops30 · 20/04/2011 14:21

I dont see your pov at all either, in fact your post made me lol.
Think you need something to fill your life with instead of harping on about your ds not getting pink crocs

nickelbaalamb · 20/04/2011 14:20

I am with you, how .
it's just a fucking colour!

what is it with men??