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Belly dancing

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JessinAvalon · 23/03/2011 23:55

I don't want to start a raging debate about this but I am hoping that some on here may be able to settle a difference in opinion between me and a friend.

She thinks (after seeing a belly dancer perform at a feminist arts event in Bristol) that it's anything but feminist and thinks it's not that different to lapdancing (titillating, revealing costumes etc).

I don't see it like that. I do Bollywood dancing (which is very hard!) and have come across belly dancers through my dancing but they were all older, larger ladies (am I allowed to say that?!) and, to me, the belly dancers I saw were celebrating their form, celebrating the dance and generally having fun.

Admittedly though I don't know much about it. Does anyone have any views/experience/knowledge that would help the debate?

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Goblinchild · 26/03/2011 15:41

'Nice that you're getting the warm welcome though. People who are nasty to me often do.'

I wonder why? Not intended aggressively or passively or anythingly.
If it is something you feel happens a lot, do you have an answer?
Is it that women don't like conflict and want to be inclusive, or what?

dittany · 26/03/2011 15:41

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nickelbabyhatcher · 26/03/2011 15:39

(and i wasn't being deliberately nasty to you then, in case you infer that)
(got the right word that time)

nickelbabyhatcher · 26/03/2011 15:39

i've never been nasty to you before.
i like your forthrightness.

dittany · 26/03/2011 15:37

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nickelbabyhatcher · 26/03/2011 15:35

i'll take a look at fat is a feminist issue, thanks SGM.

dittany · 26/03/2011 15:34

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nickelbabyhatcher · 26/03/2011 15:33

thanks HerBex - i have read up on feminism, I ^am a feminist.
i just don't like the anger and the argument, and the constant battle of words that goes on if you say something someone doesn't agree with.
that gives you the bad rep.
everytime I've come onto the feminism board, there's been a similar thing - why do you want to argue against people on the same side?
it doesn't help

StewieGriffinsMom · 26/03/2011 15:31

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EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 26/03/2011 15:30

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HerBeX · 26/03/2011 15:28

Tell you what Nickel, why don't you read up a bit on feminism?

You might be surprised to find it's not all mad warmongering.

It constantly entertains me that peopel who come on to threads and start telling us that we're all violent warmongers, then get surprised and all injured-like, when we respond negatively.

Goblinchild · 26/03/2011 15:26

Do I have a Soulpad? I have a happy-hippy-eco-warrior-with-Wiccan-bits sort of pad.

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 26/03/2011 15:22

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dittany · 26/03/2011 15:19

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nickelbabyhatcher · 26/03/2011 15:18

i promised to fuck off feminism - i still seem to be attached to the thread.

you really should read up on the history of belly dancing, though.
it is really interesting and will help you see that it's not just for men's pleasure.

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 26/03/2011 15:18

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dittany · 26/03/2011 15:17

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StewieGriffinsMom · 26/03/2011 15:16

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nickelbabyhatcher · 26/03/2011 15:15

it's not fucking middles class version of pole dancing.

dittany, please read up on the history please

dittany · 26/03/2011 15:13

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Goblinchild · 26/03/2011 15:12

You know what OP?
You did start a raging debate on this, was that what you expected, as a regular poster?

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 26/03/2011 15:12

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EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 26/03/2011 15:10

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StewieGriffinsMom · 26/03/2011 15:09

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