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Man cleared of rape because he was too drunk to realise which bed he was in.

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 26/02/2011 12:29

Sorry DM but here.

This guy's girlfriend refused sex, he stumbled into another room "by accident" and started having sex with the woman in the bed there.

He was cleared of rape.

There is so much wrong with this that I don't know where to start. I imagine he's been cleared because he didn't intend (apparently) to commit a crime. But the fact is that neither woman had consented to sex with him, so whoever he decided to penetrate it would have been rape. He seems to have been cleared on the grounds that if he had walked back into his (non-consenting) girlfriend's room and penetrated her without further ado, that would not have been rape. It obviously would have been.

:( scared and Angry all at once.

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StayFrosty · 02/03/2011 15:47

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:47

Stayfrosty reading your message made me cry i only wish he had pleaded guilty but even without they said my case was diffrent than a lot because i never froze i thought back till in the end he stop smacking me and starngled me after that i could not fight anymore when i came around i spat in his face and he still he just carried on making the noise of an animal. i had a book of injurys what was show in court and still they say i wanted ..NOT guilty how? he said he hit me once and pushed me and thats how i got some. my doctor said you can see my face was done from 2 blows or more and he still walked the photos of my neck ? still he walks
Im so sorry you was raped i trully am im cry now for us all x

StayFrosty · 02/03/2011 15:45

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Prolesworth · 02/03/2011 15:40

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EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 15:39

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:36

I dont feel brave right now i feel like i dont even want to open my blinds i really feel sad for my baby girl who i love with all my heart he has ruined my life but i cant let him do this to hers.
Just cant pull myself together.

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:30

Thankyou all so much if all us ladys that were raped and hurt so badly and had such a strong case and somehow the justice failed us if we all stuck together do you think there is something we can do i would give my last penny for the man who did this to me to pay. I just dont know if anyone can help

StayFrosty · 02/03/2011 15:27

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Prolesworth · 02/03/2011 15:10

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EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 15:09

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sethstarkaddersmackerel · 02/03/2011 15:06

I'm so so sorry, and so angry, about what happened to you BrokenGirl11.
Please talk about it as much as you want, we won't think you're going on.

BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 15:01

I will ask the lady that is coming to see me tomorrow. they said they can help move me away from here i already had to move from my last address because he found out where it was and paid someone to brick all my windows but my new house i made into a nice little home and just wanted justic and to move on i wanted him named and shamed women to see how much of a monster he is but for me there is no justice. So i think i will have to leave and try to start again somewhere eles. I cant stop thinking how did he walk away when my case was so strong and only should have went my way. I see him laughing right now. Im just so sad so low i wont keep going on sorry..

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 14:45

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BrokenGirl11 · 02/03/2011 14:38

Thankyou stewiegriffinsmom I had plans when he was found guilty to somewhat start again i wanted to take my daughter in to town look round shops but now i cant i wanted to hold my head high. i live with cameras all round my house and spend most nights watching them. i woke up a 5am this morning and all i could do was cry alone. I Should have woke up feeling happy he was behind bars but insted he is free. He has changed me forever and my life and i trully belive one day i will see him on the news but will next girl esacpe or will she end up dead.
How sad just so sad.

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 02/03/2011 14:29

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joeking · 02/03/2011 14:27

I agree with you Prolesworth, its a shame Englebert used it to raise her own cause instead of concentrating on the obvious fuck up the OP has endured thanks to our legal system.

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joeking · 02/03/2011 14:09

hating the section of society known as "women" certainly is mainstream

I'm sorry but that is complete and utter bollocks

joeking · 02/03/2011 14:07

no no no no no, that is a piss poor effort.....I suggested "ALL violence against women and children", not just "all violence".

Alice, I think complete anonimity for alleged victim/perpetrator until a charge of guilty is found would be a great help as it would take a lot of pressure off the police and lead to more cases coming to court. Also previous charges should be taken into consideration before the jury reaches a verdict as offenders are often serial offenders and previous behaviour must be a considered factor.

aliceliddell · 02/03/2011 14:03

well, joeking, hating the section of society known as "women" certainly is mainstream. that's why at least 2 women a week are killed by men. and 1 in 4 are subject to domestic violence. and 1 in 5 to sexual violence. welcome to our world.

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