This must be the fourth or fifth similar thread I've attempted to participate in. Each time, it reduces to the same theme - "we" are marginalised, "we" represent the struggle against oppression, "you" don't understand. Listen up!
Well, fair enough but how much are you doing to help people like me understand where you're coming from? I don't consider women marginalised: it's a statistical impossibility. I consider women oppressed by the world we live in and am interested in exploring ways to overcome that. There are many possible approaches to the task: one is to complain, shout, fight, be angry. Another is to explain, persuade, appeal. One can pick certain battles to fight; other issues to explain. In this forum I get the impression that angry fighting is the only acceptable route. I do know that not all the regulars are so, but it's the reason I keep giving up. Perhaps I'm really not welcome, in which case you should just say so.
Dittany, this highlights what I'm trying to say:
I was asking why feminists should accept other points of view that aren't feminist
My problem is that you decide what's feminist and what isn't. Here's an example:
I say I think it's okay - and SHOULD be okay - for young women to experiment with expressing their sexuality through fashion, walking around in high-heeled boots and bikinis if they want to. You say I'm wrong. You say women "shouldn't" dress 'like porn stars'. You say it's an invitation to rape 
My problem with the above:
1] To suggest certain clothing is an invitation to rape is to label all men rapists (I'll come back to this).
2] To proscribe certain styles of clothing for women is as repressive as the male policies you reject.
3] In associating certain styles of clothing with the sexual exploitation of women, you fall prey to the labelling & categorisation of women by their appearance. In my book, that is violently anti-feminist. And shallow.
At 3am one hot night in Rio de Janeiro, I was waiting for a night bus after the carnival parade. I was wearing a swimsuit, tights and high heels (I'd taken my heavy 'wings' off). Standing next to me at the bus stop was a stunningly beautiful girl of about 16. She was wearing two lengths of glitter-encrusted wire, moulded into a bikini shape. Basically she was naked. We'd both walked about 3 miles through streets teeming with drunk & drugged revellers and fairly heavy traffic. We were standing at the kerb of a main road. She was utterly serene. There was no greater risk to her her safety than if she'd been wearing a boiler suit.
This is part of what I want. I want women to feel confident in their bodies, their sexuality and in men. To me, this is a big part of freedom for women. My story proves that all men are not rapists; it also proves that clothing is not an invitation to rape.
I abandoned this line of argument on another thread because I was subjected to a few sarky sideswipes and, more obviously, repeated insistence that "The problem is rapists!" Some of you are terribly guilty of "reductio ad absurdam^. Because you cannot see this, you will never be able to engage in dialogue with anybody who doesn't share your exact views.