Have spent half an hour searching & have only come up with a few bits & bobs. Dittany, I should clarify that my long post was not all aimed squarely at you, only the bit where I quoted you. At the end I used "you" generically and I see why you are so offended; it could have read as meant only for you.
I accept that you've never said women invite rape by any means, nor anything like it. I am sorry for your offence.
As far as I can tell, these are two of the bits that left me with the impression my feminism isn't good enough for this board:-
Dittany wrote on the aforementioned Acquiescence thread:
It's interesting that ... women are still asking ourselves what is wrong with us, why are men singling each of us out, as if there was something individually about us that we're doing wrong. What we're doing wrong, if we were to put it that way is that we are women in a male dominated world, where men as a group are able to prey on women with virtual impunity and some of them take full advantage of that fact.
That in no way suggests you feel women 'ask for it', of course. What it did was to shift the emphasis away from my line of query - which, in summary, was "why do we play nice, and what can we do about it" - to the problem of male violence against women. Not to say it isn't a problem, but I was taking that for granted.
Vezzie wrote on the Chat thread:
while young women dress and behave more and more like sex objects, not knowing any other way, society does not change its views of such women ... The trouble is we have traditional values applied to 21 century normally dressed young women - who by traditional values are dressed like dolly birds ... however they dress they have given "permission" to men to devalue and ignore them.
Many others agree with vezzie's sentiment. To me, this means an acceptance of perceived values that I feel would be better addressed by ignoring said values!
There are other snatches I remember but couldn't find by searching - notably, the 'victim-blaming' one and some comments about dressing like porn stars. Overall, I have to accept that either I'm not a feminist according to the standards of this board or I'm piss-poor at getting my views across. Or both.
Dittany, I've been aware for a considerable time that you feel I wish to persecute you. I'm sorry you feel that way. I don't know why you do, or what motive you suspect. I don't persecute anyone anywhere, I hope.