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This board is the most frightening .

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fangbanger · 25/02/2011 23:25

Apparently.

I am a little saddened that a forum mostly used by women, has decided that the feminist boards are the most frightening of the forum.

Why do we feel that is? What can be done to prevent people from feeling so intimidated that they are too scared t post?

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itsalarf · 28/02/2011 18:57

That i'd like to see! No, the acceptance really. I am quite happy to have all the traditional accoutrements because it is totally pressure.

Tortington · 28/02/2011 18:49

acceptance or joint accounts?

i don't have a joint account - i'd rather eat my own arse

itsalarf · 28/02/2011 18:46

See, I am married, a Mrs, joint accounts etc. But am not in any way shape or form oppressed or ruled by my husband. He does not require me to dress a certain way, or behave a certain way. He just accepts me, and accepts the way in which I have changed over the years. Are these things important do you think?

dittany · 28/02/2011 18:18

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cartimandua · 28/02/2011 18:14

How right you are, Hully. It took ages for me to recognise it - going from the Young Communists to Marxism to secretary of a Labour party branch before the penny dropped. I am still a socialist but disengaged from organised politics many years ago. I don't dislike individual men - I have a father and a son and adore them both (hell, one of my best friends is a man). I guess it's a case of hate the sin, love the sinner.

My choice was to disengage as far as possible. Five of us are friends from way back. All of us were married. Only one of us still lives with her husband. Three of us live alone and one got really radical and has a gay relationship now. I've been paddling my own canoe for over 30 years and have very few regrets. But then I'm a pragmatic character and firmly believe that romantic lurve is a social construct designed to keep young women in their place.

LeninGrad · 28/02/2011 15:32

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MaxiCosy · 28/02/2011 15:28

Lenin I'm all for discussion, but when it becomes mean spirited and rude it just distracts from the point trying to be made IYSWIM.

LeninGrad · 28/02/2011 15:23

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Hullygully · 28/02/2011 15:19

The problem with putting socialism first is that all the men want the women to make the tea. Fact.

LadyBiscuit · 28/02/2011 15:12

Someone said waaaaay back that sometimes some of the stuff said on this board can challenge your whole way of thinking and I think that can feel really uncomfortable. And when people believe passionately in something then they tend to be pretty forthright about it.

But I also know a lot of us disagree over some issues, however that doesn't dilute the fundamental desire to explore how patriarchy impacts on us.

aviatrix · 28/02/2011 15:10

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Prolesworth · 28/02/2011 15:08

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MaxiCosy · 28/02/2011 15:06

No, I didn't think those things prevented me from being a feminist but after several threads I was made to reconsider. Being told I was letting the side down upset me though. I should add that these were not recent threads I'm talking about but I thought I'd add my tuppence worth when I saw the title of this thread.

I know lots of you are very lovely, but the feminist board is the only part of MN that has ever upset me, there are some very direct MNetters on here who feel so passionately about their beliefs that I don't think they necessarily realise how rude they are at times. I felt judged, as I said before. Anyway, feel better that is off my chest.

HerBeX · 28/02/2011 14:56

I think feminists are far less judgemental of other women's choices, than most non-feminists tbh.

We are analysing from a political POV, not an individual one.

EngelbertFustianMcSlinkydog · 28/02/2011 14:56

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Prolesworth · 28/02/2011 14:55

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MaxiCosy · 28/02/2011 14:51

I won;t say which arguments/posters have bothered me on here because it will out my name changes.

I'm married, SAHM, joint bank accounts, use 'Mrs' etc I could go on.

Prolesworth, you're right though, views differ such a lot.

Tortington · 28/02/2011 14:51

oh no dittany - not you too!

my world is upsidedown.

HerBeX · 28/02/2011 14:51

There are a few socialist feminists around mn

Or a few feminist socialists...

dittany · 28/02/2011 14:45

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AyeRobot · 28/02/2011 14:43

MaxiCosy, I don't think I see any scathing judgment on here, unless it is from trolls. Picking apart the systems underlying choices people make, perhaps. What aspects do you feel are being judged on?

Prolesworth · 28/02/2011 14:43

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HerBeX · 28/02/2011 14:39

Yes I know and I was going to compare their choice of restaurants compared to Tory menz as well and thought the better of it in case I get excommunicated from the feminist boards Grin

Am very wrong and childish and promise to conduct more extensive research in order to debunk any new myths I may have inadvertently created. Grin

Tortington · 28/02/2011 14:38

i feel all loved up

thats put me right out that has.

you're feminists, not hippies, pack it in!

LeninGrad · 28/02/2011 14:33

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