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AIBU to be mildy annoyed at all the christmas cards addressed to Mr and Mrs DHName?

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BlingLoving · 22/12/2010 10:10

I could put this in AIBU but know that I'd just get a whole lot of "yes, YABU" and I'd like considered opinions! Grin

I briefly, for about 2 weeks, thought I would change my name. But then didn't and made it clear to everyone I hadn't. I have had just ONE christmas card addressed to DH and me by our correct names and it's starting to piss me off.

Part of me thinks I'm being silly, but mostly, I just think it surely is not that hard? Before we were married no one had any problems addressing cards and letters to DH Surname and Bling Loving or even Mr DH Surname and Ms Bling Loving.

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StewieGriffinsMom · 22/12/2010 10:36

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Giftwrapped · 22/12/2010 10:32

I do it because I was taught that it's the correct way to address an envelope .

I've never done it with the intention of pissing anyone off, it's the just the inner pedant in me.

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BlingLoving · 22/12/2010 10:28

Oh dear. We've decided to give DC his name - I just don't care enough and he does so it seemed okay to me. But I'm screwed aren't I? If DC are Little DHNames, everyone will jsut automatically assume I can't possibly be anything different?

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AGCG · 22/12/2010 10:18

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all - it still really winds me up and we've been married nearly six years. Because it's NOT MY NAME! The cards are addressed to my husband and someone who basically doesn't exist. I think the worst ones are to "Mr and Mrs DHfirstname DHsurname" - where am I in this exactly?

Our son has a double barrelled surname - told to everyone when he was born - so why do people persist in thinking I have the same surname as my husband? Would have thought that would make it obvious.

And, why do people think it's "nice"? It's not - it is blatant disregard for your own feelings and decisions!

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BlingLoving · 22/12/2010 10:15

Yes. It's friends. I have one in particular who does it on purpose. I am about to email her.

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jamaisjedors · 22/12/2010 10:12

I got this after I got married (from friends who thought it was sweet).

They have since (kind of) reverted as it is clear I don't use DH's name.

It makes me feel a little sick that people think it is "nice".