Women only wear short skirts to attract men?

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ToyBoat · 08/12/2010 13:03

This is what two different men have said to me recently - both men I respect (not any more!).

They don't believe me when I say I wear short skirts myself (with leggings) because I worked hard to get my legs slim, and I think I look attractive in them which is, IMO, completely different to saying that I want men to look at my legs and admire them.

It is different, isn't it? I admire women who look and dress attractively, but I don't fancy them.

Can we discuss this issue? I didn't argue my point very well because I was tired at the time, but I could do with some good soundbites to prove to these men that everything in life isn't just about sex and attracting a mate!

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Beachcomber · 08/12/2010 13:11

Mmmm, I don't think women only wear short skirts to attract men.

I do however think that the male gaze is a massive influence on what a woman will consider attractive/appealing in herself (whether there are men around at the time or not).

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ToyBoat · 08/12/2010 13:09

This was a conversation when I was trying to explain to these men that one of the reasons feminism is still relevant, is that too many men still see a woman and think first 'is she worth shagging' and second 'is she worth listening to' and it should be the other way round. both men said (separately) that it's just natural that human's first instinct is to think about whether someone's worth shagging or not and that some women want men to look at them that way because 'look how they dress'

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Jajas · 08/12/2010 13:05

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