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....this is mens talk - fuming!!

32 replies

BibiBlocksberg · 02/12/2010 15:56

Am at work and all the men on my floor were just watching the draw as to who gets to host the World Cup.

So, colleague sitting closest to me tells the room that the UK hasn't got it. I ask him does he know who did get it then - no answer just blanks me.

Then starts talking about Blatter so I in a throwaway sort of way I said 'who, good old Sep'? and the guy turns round and in a really patronizing voice and manner tells me ' It's alright, it's not for you, this is mens talk for a minute'

WTF????????? Didn't know what to reply to that, managed to loudly say 'what a sexist and patronising thing to say to me' but then couldn't think of anything else.

Am soooooooooo angry....wish I'd thought of the 'didn't know a penis was needed to talk about this'remark in time although that would have probably got me a black mark from my manager.

Anyone have any tips of how to deal with this sort of thing in the future? Still steaming with anger here Angry

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 02/12/2010 16:39

good reply. What a tremendous cockstain he is.

claig · 02/12/2010 16:39

The way to get back at him is to call him "a little man", because this is what he really is and he knows it, that is why he tried to do the opposite by bigging himself up and belittling you. He has a fragile ego, and he tried to boost it by knocking you. If he tries anything else in a similar vein, I would loudly say

"you're such a little man, does it make you feel big to knock women?"

He won't want you to expose his insecurities, so he will soon leave you alone.

claig · 02/12/2010 16:30

you were spot on, it was sexist and patronising and it's great that this forum helped you quickly come up with it. Everyone who heard you will agree with you. You showed the pathetic creep up. He picked on you to big himself up and exclude you from the group. Pathetic, but it is great that you know his true colours. He has made a mistake in revealing his true self to you.

AliceWorld · 02/12/2010 16:26

Agree spot on. Well done for challenging it.

BibiBlocksberg · 02/12/2010 16:18

"You answered well, well done"

Grin thanks - would never have been able to even say that before I started reading up on the subject of sexism and feminism on MN.

Quite surprised myself as it happens :)

Still doesn't feel like enough though......bloody idiot!! Doesnt' help that i'm the only woman on this floor most days so he probably feels he can get away with it.

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claig · 02/12/2010 16:12

You answered well, well done. He is pathetic, but it is a blessing that you now know his true colours and how pathetic he is. He is jealous of you and wanted to exclude you from the group. Bear that in mind for the future.

ChocolateMoose · 02/12/2010 16:00

Ouch! I think the best thing to say might be just "That's really rude/offensive" - given that it's work and you can't swear - but I'm sure others will be along with better ideas on how to deal with that sort of crap.