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So, are you attracted to 'feminist nightmare' blokes? If so, does it annoy or amuse you?

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LoudRowdyDuck · 12/11/2010 23:18

I hope this is ok, I fancied a light-hearted thread for saturday night, and with luck some of you will still be aware to help me ponder.

DH has just introduced me to Ashes to Ashes and obviously (er ... for a MNer ...), I went and searched out the Telly thread on here. I discover that masses of apparently sane women have huge crushes on Gene Hunt, who (in case you don't know), plays a sort of caricature 1970s misogynist/sex pest.

And I sort of know what they mean. Blush

I wondered how many of us who are feminists, do feel attracted to the very 'wrong' men? Is it excusable because it's a fantasy or should we be having strong words with ourselves?

Discuss.

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LoudRowdyDuck · 13/11/2010 00:12

Fair enough LadyFnar (wonderful name, I just imagine it in a Country Living caption ... 'Lady Caroline Fnar, lately of Boggington House, Essex, says ....').

I do find men who genuinely don't like women very disturbing.

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LoudRowdyDuck · 13/11/2010 00:10
Grin

I like both, but I did a minor NC for halloween recently and realized that I am too dyslexic - if I see initials that aren't 'mine' I struggle!

Besides which, much as I would love to be petite, I'm not! DH, bless him, just told someone I'm a size 8 ... would it were true. Hmm Grin

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Joolyjoolyjoo · 13/11/2010 00:09

My DH has definite misogynist tendencies, but I like to think the fact that he married me proves they aren't too deep-seated, as I challenge him on them every time

My dad is also guilty of misogeny- he gets a frequent tongue-lashing too! Funnily enough they both come out with the "yeah, but most women..." line, as if I am somehow different, which enrages me

I'll admit, I do quite like the thought of taking an inherently sexist man and making him betray his sexist principles. Blush

LadyFnarFnar · 13/11/2010 00:08

I know Loud, but to me he does actually seem to like women in every sense of the word, which is refreshing. What can I say I'm odd Grin

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 13/11/2010 00:07

I love SmallOrangeWyvern! or PetiteCrimsonFirebreather perhaps?

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LoudRowdyDuck · 13/11/2010 00:04

Ew, Lady, Russell Brand? [boak]

I seem to be alone.

Er ... I do have a crush on Keeley Hawes in the same programme, does that redeem me at all?

Smile
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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 13/11/2010 00:03

yeah agreed tethersend. I love arguing, the right kind of arguing (we can argue about what the right kind is if you like but I might get all unnecessary).

I met my ex-boyfriend when a group of us had planned a night out. One girl dragged him along (who nobody knew except her) and simpered "can lovely [name] come along with us as well?", and amid of chorus of "of course, it's fine!"s I looked him in the eye and just said "No". :o

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LoudRowdyDuck · 13/11/2010 00:02

Oops, sorry Elephants, I misread your post - I hope I'm who you think I am, otherwise I will feel a twat!

I kept the same acronym, but I did think about changing to SmallOrangeWyvern.

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LadyFnarFnar · 13/11/2010 00:00

Hmm no I seem to be attracted to either intelligent or quite androgynous men. Really don't think I'd cope with the beery misogynist type tbh.

I'm racking my brains to think of any "twatty" men I like, hmm....

Nope I'm coming up blank, maybe the twatty boys I saw my friend's pairing up with as a teeneger put me off.

Any kind of "Man's man, raaaargh hear me roar" is 100% guaranteed to put me off.

Actually I can offer Russell Brand, but he's quite intelligent ahd thoughtfull, along with being a serial shagger lol.

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LoudRowdyDuck · 13/11/2010 00:00

Thanks tether, that is a lovely way to put it.

I was mostly just being amused that I know MN is full of bright women who wouldn't stand any of that crap in RL ... but they're all over it on TV!

Elephants - No, I did not NC for this! Grin

(I don't have that much shame)

I changed because I'm teaching next term and am quite identifiable, so it seemed a good idea. It feels odd though, I keep being friendly to people who ignore me! I must resolve to be very, very kind to newbies.

I think you are right in what you say about true sexists not having a sense of humour. This is a bit of a constant worry with me because my ex was not the nicest guy, and when I think about it, he thought he had a sense of humour but not when it came to laughing at anything but women. Sad

However, I would love to see if anyone who fancies the sexist alpha males could come on this thread and explain it?

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 12/11/2010 23:56

Do you know - I really didn't! If you are who I think you are of course. Did you NC for this? :o

I doubt there is anyone who is very sexist but also has a sense of humour. Because underlying sexism there is a core of pure whiney little boy "you must respect me! and my willyyyyyyy! yes you must!" that is deeply pathetic. People can't be that funny IMO if they take themselves seriously. And blimey do sexist men take themselves seriously. IME of course :o

tethersend · 12/11/2010 23:55

Arguing and sexual attraction sit cheek by jowl in my world I'm afraid... so it's precisely the feeling generated by arguing which would do it IYSWIM.

I don't feel odd about it though. I mean, there is a difference between being attracted to someone and wanting them to be your life partner and father your children.

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LoudRowdyDuck · 12/11/2010 23:48

Well, I guess so ... I am slightly concerned that perhaps I'd just grin and enjoy taking the piss?

I've not met anyone who was very sexist but also had a sense of humour, so I don't know!

Btw, I expect you saw through the subtle name-change, but it does feel strange posting under this!

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 12/11/2010 23:41

I dunno - not sure I go for that particular kind of character. But if you do, it could be because you know they're in a safe place (locked in the telly) so it's just a fantasy. Presumably in real life you'd want to kick someone talking like that in the cock?

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