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Minor rant - shouldn't watch the telly!

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ISNT · 10/11/2010 19:25

The one show

Just had a thing saying that women's pensions are much lower than men's and double the amount of women as men have no pension provision whatsoever.

Report started by saying about how the old idea that women aren't any good with money (not heard that one but anyway) isn't true but now we've seemingly got equality, how is this happening?

Aha, I thought, they will obviously talk about

  • Women doing lower paid work than men in general
  • The gender pay gap (different money for same work)
  • The hammering to women's pensions and earning potential if they have children and take more than 3 seconds out of work
  • The fact that until recently women usually didn't qualify for a full state pension because of not enough NI cont due to time out raising children

Did they talk about that? Oh no. First they said that women only want to spend money on things that are tangible. So pensions are meaningless to them.

Then I missed two mins while I looked at a gossip thread Blush so they may have said all the above in that section... but... I doubt it as when I tuned back in they were talking about women shopping excessively to fill emotional voids in their lives, then they talked about women having lots of debt due to frivolous shopping, then they rounded it up by saying that whether the "purses were prada or gucci, women had to remember they held the strings".

How will we ever get anywhere, when lazy gender stereotypes are propogated in this way, and the real deep problems are not even mentioned???

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Sakura · 11/11/2010 12:33

sorry, if that doesn't tie in with what the programme was actually about (seeing as I didn't watch it).
But even if they're scratching their heads at what my complaint letter means it's all good. Keeps them on their toes...

ISNT · 11/11/2010 12:31

Also I don't know many men who aren't red hot keen on big shopping trips. They are just as susceptible to designer labels, "must have" items and many have very expensive hobbies to boot. The idea that only women shop is ludicrous. Maybe less men get into debt over it because they have higher incomes, rather than to do with an innate superiority in financial matters Hmm

I know at least two families where the man has to hand all his wages over to the woman on payday a la the olden days. So they don't piss it all up the wall. Works for them so fine. But it's bollocks to say that women are shit with money and men are great.

Especially when you're talking about pensions, where most young / early middle age people's pensions are through work. So nothing to do with how many shoes people buy and everything to do with why so many less women are accessing their work pensions (or in fact whether they even have them). This is such a complex subject, to see it reduced like that was bizarre. I'm not sure what debt even had to do with the question TBH.

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Sakura · 11/11/2010 12:30

I didn't watch the programme, obviously, but just reading your OP made me see red. I've sent my complaint Grin

This was my opening line:

WOmen have traditional been the ones to balance the family books. Around the world women's bookeeping skills have kept the children in food and clothing over the centuries and today in many cultures.
Bill-paying, investing and accounting is regarded as "women's work" in numerous countries such as the U.S, Thailand and Japan.

So imagine my surprise when I tuned in to a programme suggesting that women are somehow born with an inability to bookeep, and that this is why they receive less of a pension than men.
Is it just British women who are born with this fiscal handicap? The programme doesn't say.
.

ISNT · 11/11/2010 12:26

Just watched it again, and whoops it said that for women pensions were "unknown" not "meaningless". A good reason to follow prof layton's advice on writing it yourself!

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sethstarkaddersmum · 11/11/2010 12:21

'Are women hopeless at controlling their finances?'
'I've got three sisters and I can absolutely agree with that.'
'Well, there we are.'

QED Hmm

the thing about women spending on clothes etc also doesn't mention the fact that women have to spend more on clothes thanks to the s*dding beauty standard that means you will suffer at work for not being well-dressed.

ISNT · 11/11/2010 12:19

Maybe we should start our own channel with lots of non anything-ist programming.

No-one would watch it

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sethstarkaddersmum · 11/11/2010 12:16

found it, it's about 14 mins in

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 11/11/2010 12:15

I only ever watched the first series of The Apprentice, but that was appallingly sexist. The by-far-the-most-competent candidate was a woman eliminated by AS just before the final stages for no reason at all so far as I or anyone else could see (his advisors just sat there looking like this --> ShockConfused). It really just did seem as though he was put off by female candidates who didn't fit into his own preconceived ideas of "women in business". Very icky. I haven't bothered to watch it since.

AliceWorld · 11/11/2010 12:13

Re the Apprentice (watch lots of crap on TV Grin), I thought it was very interesting though that Nick referred to how distasteful their sexist campaign was as did Al. And he did say they just didn't lose to emphasise how crap they were, linking it to their sexism.

I think the article was maybe the second one on the One Show last night.

ISNT · 11/11/2010 12:06

Since when does AS think that alieneating your entire target audience is a successful result?

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ISNT · 11/11/2010 12:05

Oh is it on iplayer? So people can watch and make their own complaints minds up Grin

I saw the apprentice last night as well. I don't expect anyone to believe me when I say that this is only about the 3rd time I've had the one show on and also don't watch the apprentice, but somehow I managed to take in both last night. And yes what a load of shit that was. When they said the ones who had made the dreadful advert had won I switched over in disgust and ranted at DH. The whole thing was just so appallingly sexist wasn't it. From the man picking the woman for the advert that he fancied and then have her snuggle on the sofa with him, to the whole 50s premise, to just everything. It was awful. And it won. WTF?

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ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 11/11/2010 12:03

Mmm, yes, but they've had the detailed issues pointed out at length now so "What a load of sexist claptrap that was on the One Show item about women's pensions." would probably do fine if someone doesn't know what to say. They'll tally up the total number of individual complaints they get about the programme segment.

It's not a big issue, but I've had lobbying groups ask me not to use standard template letters before, and WriteToThem has a whole help section on why they block their use. So worth bearing in mind.

sethstarkaddersmum · 11/11/2010 12:02

how far into the prog is it? I have found the prog on IPlayer but don't want to sit thro whole thing
thanks

Bue · 11/11/2010 12:00

Well done ISNT. I have just now watched it on the iPlayer and sat there cringing.

To top off an evening of complete sexist shite on the telly, did anyone see last night's Apprentice? (Well no, you're probably all a bit more high brow than me!)

AliceWorld · 11/11/2010 11:56

I'd say if it's between taking things off what has been written, or not writing at all as you don't know what to say, do the former. Lots of lobbying groups use standard template letters, perhaps as the lesser evil.

ISNT · 11/11/2010 11:53

Fair enough prof! Just trying to make it easier for people.

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 11/11/2010 11:53

going to complain now.

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 11/11/2010 11:50

I suggest people don't use any of your actual wording -- if lots of identically or similarly-worded complaints come in they tend to get disregarded or at least discounted as being part of an "orchestrated campaign". Individual wording is very important (doesn't need to be very long as they should be well aware of what the issues are by now).

ISNT · 11/11/2010 11:45

Feel free to use it / bits of it, anyone else who wants to complain!

Honestly I was like this Shock

The worst thing is that if they hadn't said the utterly outrageous thing ie that pensions are meaningless to women as they only understand things that are tangible, I probably wouldn't have batted an eyelid. And the rest of it was awful.

Just shows how far away we are from where we want to be Sad

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StealthPoHoHoHo · 11/11/2010 11:42

very good!

ISNT · 11/11/2010 11:38

Have sent this:

I was watching The One Show yesterday and they had a piece saying that women's pensions are much lower than men's and double the amount of women as men have no pension provision whatsoever. The content of the report was sexist and offensive.

The report started by saying about how the old idea that women aren't any good with money isn't true but now we've seemingly got equality, how is this happening? (I am not aware of it being common knowledge that women are terrible with money but was willing to let this one go).

So at this point I imagined that the report would talk about some of the following reasons that women have lower pensions than men:

  • Women doing lower paid work than men in general
  • The gender pay gap (different money for same work)
  • The hammering to women's pensions and earning potential if they have children and take more than a nominal time out of work
  • The fact that until recently women usually didn't qualify for a full state pension because of not enough NI cont due to time out raising children

Did they talk about any of these things? No.

First they said that women only want to spend money on things that are tangible, and therefore pensions are meaningless to them. Yes that's right. Those were the words they used - so basically women are too stupid to understand concepts like saving, and future, and retirement, and can only understand things which are in front of their noses right now.

We then moved on to the sort of things women do understand, given that things like pensions, retirement, and future are all concepts that are meaningless to them.

Yes next we had a long section about how women fritter all of their money away on frivolities. Talking about women shopping excessively to fill emotional voids in their lives, then talking about women having lots of debt due to frivolous shopping, then they rounded it up by saying that whether the "purses were prada or gucci, women had to remember they held the strings".

My complaints are therefore as follows:

  1. It is not a received common wisdom that all women are terrible with money and to present that as fact is to buy into a sexist stereotype (which I wasn't even aware of until yesterday - maybe the show has invented a new one)
  2. It is factually incorrect and highly offensive to say that women cannot grasp concepts like pensions, that these concepts are "meaningless" to them.
  3. It is offensive to spend a large component of a piece about women's low pensions talking about how the real problem is women spending all their money on shoes and handbags and being incapable of understanding about saving for their old age. When in fact there are a range of reasons that women as a group have poor pensions, none of these reasons have anything to do frivolous spending.

In short I found this piece offensively sexist, using a string of nasty stereotypes and failing to address any of the genuine reasons that women actually have lower pensions than men.

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AliceWorld · 11/11/2010 11:29

The thing that made me keep complaining about stuff despite the 'Naah, you're wrong because we say you are.' was something I read about how one of the justifications for that response is that they are reflecting 'public opinion'. So public opinion doesn't think whatever is sexist therefore that are just reflecting that. But if people keep complaining, then we can potentially shift this nebulous public opinion. Not quick and easy but a potential route.

sethstarkaddersmum · 11/11/2010 11:23

LOL Alice, so true; you spend ages composing a brilliant and irrefutable argument and they just reply (if they even bother to reply) 'Naah, you're wrong because we say you are.'

but you just keep on keeping on in the hope that one day someone will notice that the BBC gets 100000000000000 complaints about sexism every year and it's not good enough!

AliceWorld · 11/11/2010 11:16

I poshed it up a bit. Thb I've stopped poshing things up too much. I write for a living, and found I was obsessing about every word on things like that, and then realised that however eloquent my argument it would end up on the same pile, so I toned down the poshing. Quantity over poshing. Grin

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 11/11/2010 11:14

I reworded most of what you'd said as you had it nicely organised (didn't cut and paste as you don't want lots of identikit complaints but I covered the same general points, bringing in what InMyPrime said about research showing that women were statistically better at long-term financial planning).