If you were raped would you report it?

I had no idea where the 41% thing was from, Helvetica - thankyou for posting that. It certainly demonstrates what a nonsense that figure is. Even leaving out the stuff about the threatened/mandatory use of the polygraph, 109 cases is such a small statistical sample that any conclusions based on this cannot be seen as scientifically valuable.

To be honest, I don't trust shampoo adverts when I see that the customer satisfaction rating (or whatever) is based on a statistical sample that small - never mind anything more serious!

Wow, this thread has made me go cold all over. There are some freakin' HORRIBLE people on here.

It's so very sad that most people said no, although I'm no different I'm afraid. When I was raped by an ex-work colleague after a boozy night out in the local pub, I didn't report him. I didn't even report after bumping into him at the same pub a few months later when very veiled threats were made.

I genuinely thought for years that, because I was drunk and because I'd taken him up on his offer of the sofa bed downstairs from him, that I must have been at fault when he came down in the middle of the night.

It took me AGES to recognise him for the coward he is, and now it's too late.

In hindsight though, based on what I've read on here, and based on the horrifying statistics, I still don't think I would've reported him had I been more certain of my own innocence in the matter.

I wouldnt bother engaging with these fuckwits at all. You only have to look at the stuff they're posting on a thread in which women talk about having been raped to see them for what they are.

Ignore them. They lack the ability to fully understand how stupid and dull they are.

ShroudofHamsters. Nice imagery.

'as usual there are accusations of trolling. You need to realise that because someone has a different POV they are not by default a troll'

-yes, in the context of this thread, it is equally possible that they are, instead, a slime-sucking humanity-hating shitbag of a rape apologist.

It's important to recognise that, as you say, carpetmistress

What a creepy place this thread turned to be. Crawling with slimy characters.

Goodness, I am lucky I don't know anyone like that in RL.

'mrgreatness', your very name gives away what you are. Do you truely belive women just get bored and decide to report someone for rape? Do you even think before act?

Do you really belive that your post is appropriate? I would like to suggest you buy one of those vile 'rape joke' t shirts so decent people can spot and beat avoid you.

Have regained the power of words now.

You stupid, stupid person. The reason for the questions and examination are to obtain the evidence that will be used in any subsequent court case.

Have you read the accounts on this thread - do these women sound like liars? I personally think attitudes like yours are what have put genuine rape victims off reporting their rapes.

How would you feel if your wife/mother/sister/daughter was raped and didn't want to report it because the thought of the examination and questioning was too traumatic on top of the rape? Would you still think it was a good thing then, because they might be lying?

Vile beyond belief.

OMFG!! Words fail me. Am reporting your post.

I am not surprised that carpetmistress has utterly ignored my points from last night - she hasn't tried to explain why someone who wants rapists caught and imprisoned is a 'radical feminist' rather than simply a human being. Nor has she explained how anyone with a heart can read the accounts of rapes posted on this thread and then start throwing around the 'false rape accusations' shit.

And of course she won't want to address the issue that some (who knows how many) of the 'false rape' accusations will be genuine rape victims who have withdrawn their accusation because of outside pressure, or because they are not being believed either by the police or by their friends and family, or because they haven't got the support they need to go through this traumatic process.

As I said - just because an allegation is withdrawn, that doesn't mean it was false.

Carpetmistress - do you think it is an easy thing to report a rape? To undergo deeply intimate questioning by the police, and then a full physical examination for rape? People here and elsewhere have said that it was as bad or worse than the original rape - so why the hell would anyone believe that lots of women are happily putting themselves through all this, just to make a malicious accusation? It beggars belief, frankly.

It's awful but I really don't know. If I was raped by a stranger on a street then yes. However if it was someone I knew then it'd be incredibly hard given the conviction rate/ traditional treatment of women in that scenario.

If someone hit me or stole from me I'd report no matter what the circumstances...

And a "different POV" on a thread about whether women would report rape or not.

The different POV, is that women should STFU when they're raped, stop whingeing about it and just accept the fact that men can rape us whenever they feel like it and as long as it's not down a dark alley and they haven't been previously introduced to us, it's OK.

So FFS women, stop whingeing about rape. Don't report it, because you're making a big fat fuss about nothing.

They are so alarmed by the prospect of not being allowed to rape us with impunity aren't they?

I love this "just because someone has a different POV doesn't mean they're trolling" crap.

From someone who is obviously a namechanger and has come onto this thread to talk about false allegations of rape, rather than rape, because men being falsely accused, even though it's rare, always has to be considered more important than women being raped, even though that's really common (1 in 9 of us remember).

I wonder how these lunatics who are so concerned about men being falsely accused of rape, feel about men who get raped? Do they think that most rape allegations by men are false as well? Or is it just women who are hysterical liars, can men who say they are raped be trusted as much as the average victim of burglary?

Yes but then I'd have to report myself for murder. Bastards.

Indeed bemybebe. Save the pizza for the nice people. :)

as usual there are accusations of trolling. You need to realise that because someone has a different POV they are not by default a troll

I didn't report my 3-strangers at night rape and neither did my friend who was drugged by a guy from her course at university. We had our reasons. Both were rapes, both devastating and both unreported.

And please remember to NOT FEED THE TROLLS... every time you do they get bigger and bigger and more vile in character.

More men lie about not being rapists than women lie about being raped.

Apparently suggesting that anyone other than men who lurk in dark alleys are could be rapists is being a 'rad fem'.

Welcome to MN CarpetMistress. Your second day, yet you've only posted in feminism and seem to know a poster who hasn't been here for weeks.