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If you were raped would you report it?

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darleneconnor · 08/11/2010 20:07

A topical question.

I didn't in the past because I was in denial.

For the sake of my privacy I still wouldn't now. It'd make me feel so guilty leaving someone to go free and maybe do it again but psychologically I coudln't cope with a court case and all that goes with it.
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Nilgiri · 12/03/2012 14:24

Thanks, Darlene, I was just thinking of this thread and wondering if it could be found again.

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Darleneconnor · 12/03/2012 14:22

I'm bumping this thread in the spirit of the current campaign.

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aliceliddell · 26/10/2011 18:30

YY Fifi, also the police don't collect evidence properly so the case can't proceed even if the women could stand to do it

Fifis25StottieCakes · 26/10/2011 18:16

A 'false' allegation is not always a false allegation though. How many woman probably get half way through then pull out of it and just try to forget about it or deal with it in their own way.

aliceliddell · 26/10/2011 18:00

Your name is a source of great amusement, which is unfortunate given the topic of the thread (obv my reaction is unfortunate, not your name)

aliceliddell · 26/10/2011 17:35

Grin @ shroudofhamsters you caah! literally pmsl

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 26/10/2011 17:34

Guess which two regulars on MN were saying 'they have a point' on the AIBU thread?

DontCallMeFrothyDragon · 26/10/2011 17:33

Oh dear...

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 26/10/2011 17:33

Someone linked to it here. The thread's since been stopped but I suspect that's where the visitors came from.

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 26/10/2011 17:30

It might have something to do with this.

DontCallMeFrothyDragon · 26/10/2011 17:28

What's with the troll infestation of late? Confused

Is it half term?

StewieGriffinsMom · 26/10/2011 16:39

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YaMaYaMa · 26/10/2011 16:35

Could you not post in this thread please, richdude/whatever other names you're using. This thread isnt really about whether or not some people lie about having been raped. A lot of women have posted their incredibly distressing experiences and your posts are completely inappropriate. If you want to discuss your hatred of women terrible opinions, just start another thread that can focus on that.

PamBeesly · 26/10/2011 16:30

I don't hate men richdude I love many of them and have respect for those who I encounter who have respect for me. You come across as if you have a certain experience or experiences you are bitter about. I think if you read through this thread you will see your comments are hurtful, there are a lot of women here who have been raped and have failed to get a conviction, and there are some who wouldn't even consider the prospect of reporting it because they know what the conviction rate is and what an ordeal women who have been raped have to go through in a court situation, her sexuality is on trial, not the vicious vile rapists attack. I think while you are entitled to hold your own views on it, you should notpost them here, I hope the women who have been affected by the horrific crime that is rape can overlook this.

richdude · 26/10/2011 16:29

mra's don't say that

theothersparticus · 26/10/2011 16:28

"normal" Hmm

well since the 'man hating feminists' are actually quoting facts and you're just quoting MRA, I know who I'm listening to.

richdude · 26/10/2011 16:20

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theothersparticus · 26/10/2011 16:18

does it happen to you a lot richdude?

richdude · 26/10/2011 16:14

just remember it happens. That is all

theothersparticus · 26/10/2011 16:11

richdude (mrgreatness?) could you please read this thread before spouting your 'bitches women lie' line?

richdude · 26/10/2011 16:04

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HelveticaTheBold · 26/10/2011 15:35

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KRITIQ · 26/10/2011 15:24

Wow, thanks for finding that Helvetica. I might try and look further into it if I have time. As I understand it, evidence from lie detectors isn't admissible in UK courts and not in some parts of the US either because it can be unreliable. It seems very dodgy if complainants were pushed into taking a lie detector test. Did they, for example, believe this was something done only for rape complainants perhaps because the police didn't believe them, and therefore made women feel intimidated and more likely to withdraw complaints?

In any case, we know that it is not uncommon for women to withdraw complaints of rape, sexual assault or domestic abuse where they fear repercussions from the perpetrator, have been threatened with violence if they don't drop charges, etc. Withdrawal of a complaint doesn't mean the assault didn't actually take place.

HelveticaTheBold · 26/10/2011 15:16

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MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 26/10/2011 14:17

So for the investigation to stop the women had to say they weren't raped? And the investigations were carried out by a police force who forced women to take polygraph tests? I wonder why they said they weren't raped Hmm

And 9 years, only 109 reported rapes???? I can't imagine why.

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