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Just seen a nasty little sexist 'joke' on my ex's facebook ... this is actually quite nasty isn't it?

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JaneS · 04/11/2010 22:30

I am playing riiight into the stereotype 'humourless feminist'. However, I've just see my ex's facebook profile (we've both been invited to the same party and his profile shows up; he's not a friend of mine, before you wonder).

The phrase he's chosen as his top favourite quotation, the bit of information he really, really wants to share with the world is:

'You can lead a horticulture, but you can't make her think.'

My immediate reaction was to feel a bit revolted. I used to snigger at sexist jokes in very 'ooh, I'm so grown-up, it's all humour innit' way so I feel quite ashamed.

My ex's dad's favourite joke was 'Why does a bride wear white?' 'To fit in with the other kitchen appliances'.

I'm depressed about it all. Are these jokes generally acceptable do you think, and do you think most people you know would just laugh and not worry about it? I think the first one is much worse than the second, btw.

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Casmama · 04/11/2010 23:16

I think that neither joke is remotely funny or acceptable and if I was to see that on someones facebook profile I would decide that he was a twat without needing any further information.

JaneS · 04/11/2010 22:49

Ah, didn't know that el, thanks. Instinctively I want to say if Dorothy Parker said it it must be ok, so I like your explanation of why it could be.

I think it's more that I find it offensive said by a man? There's a bit of a nasty sexual streak to it in that context (and obviously there is for me because I was fool enough to sleep with him, but that's another story).

The thing is, used women to find this sort of joke funny? I guess Parker did or she wouldn't have made it, but ...

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elportodelgato · 04/11/2010 22:41

IIRC the first 'joke' is a quote from Dorothy Parker who was asked to use the word 'horticulture' in a sentence and came up with it on the hoof. If that's true, I think that was quite clever of her and you have to remember that the time in which she lived was very different to now. Not funnt enough to repeat on bloody Fb though

I find the second joke worse TBH

JaneS · 04/11/2010 22:39

Yeah, but why didn't I run a mile when his dad made the crack about women/domestic appliances? Why has this kind of nasty humour become kind of ok? And why?

I really think that lots of my generation think 'risque' (=offensive) humour is something they should find funny as a badge of how clever they are.

I don't quite know how to sort through my own reactions to this - I do watch a fair bit of TV comedy and am often torn between finding a lot of it funny and then finding parts make me incandescent.

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TheCrackFox · 04/11/2010 22:34

Yes, the joke is sexist and very unfunny.

Looking on the bright side he is your ex. Phew.

If he is single he is also advertising to any woman, who might be interested in him, that he is a pillock.

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