I am not suggesting that it is any of my business, but I do think about it. I feel conflicted.
She is educated, strong, confident, beautiful and capable.
He is highly educated, intellegent, funny, sociable.
They have a happy marriage with lots of children and lots of friends.
But he is SUCH an arse about some things - really important things.
Actually, what is the difference between a chauvanist and a mysoginist?
He earns the money so she does EVERYTHING else, and with lots of children and pg with another that is a lot to do. EVERYTHING. He comes in and puts his feet up and that's it.
Last Christmas he gave her a cleaner 
. Everyone thought it was lovely of him and I was the only one spluttering - it makes me doubt myself.
And everything revolves around what he wants to do. He gets an awful lot of sport time and drinking time and tv time. She gets to do things too but he always has first dibs, so her social life fits in around his convenience.
And he is so bloody rude to her in front of people. Shouting and belittling. She says it's okay and he doesn't really mean it :( (People do call him on it though, and tell him it isn't okay).
He is such a spoiled child. And so testosterony. And I have occasionally said that he's a bit of a troglodyte (in a fond way - I know it's crap but I do like him in some ways and we socialise with them a lot, me being an arse to him wouldn't really achieve anything) and she laughs and agrees and doesn't seem to mind.
But surely she must?
She considers herself a feminist, and cares deeply about her daughters upbringing from a feminist perspective.
But... but...