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working mothers

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novicemama · 10/09/2010 10:02

The company I work for is signed up with 'wellbeing works' - this is part of our 'benefits' and there are helplines you can use etc. Every week they send out an email, usually with articles about health, stress in the workplace, your workplace rights etc. I have already had to complain to them once this year about an article entitled 'Rape: don't become another statistic' warning women not to drink too much or give off mixed messages to male colleagues in the pub Hmm

Now today I see [[http://eu.healthinsite.net/ContentViewerPane/ContentViewerPane.aspx?cookie=2100001605&Content=5914&ContentType=2
this little gem]] about working mothers and how to deal with having to spend nights away from your family.

I don't know where to start really, there are just SO MANY things in there that make my blood boil. Would anyone like to kick off? And any input into the complaint email I'll be sending this afternoon would be welcomed too!

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Longtinsellyjosie · 19/12/2010 20:34

Ooh this is old. Sorry Blush

Longtinsellyjosie · 19/12/2010 20:33

novicemama - print out this thread, and then get MNHQ to delete it. Print it out to prove you didn't say which firm it was, and delete it because they might not be best pleased about you starting it. It'll be clear it's you, because they'll know who they sent that reply to...

Sakura · 30/11/2010 01:07

"Munching on mommy's meals will remind them of how much you love them"

Urgh, you get this in Japan a lot. Once a week DD gets a packed lunch and it's supposed to be a work of art to show your children how much you love them.

My children already know I love them. They don't need me to show it through food.

earwicga · 29/11/2010 20:01

Oh, just noticed the dates Blush

earwicga · 29/11/2010 19:59

I haven't read all the comments on this thread, but [the vile crap] is written just for coupled hetrosexual women. Not for lesbian mums or single mums. I would have thought it was illegal to be hetrosexist to your employees.

TryLikingClarity · 29/11/2010 19:36

(bumping this so I can read it at a later date)

MrsClown · 29/11/2010 15:15

Novicemama. I am speechless. I cannot believe that this shit is being sent to staff. I think your response is great. You may want to ask them what they think the Equal Opportunities Commission would think of their 'advice'.

My husband manages perfectly well when I am not at home. He is gobsmacked.

Who do you work for, is it a large organisation. I work for the NHS and I cant imagine them doing this. Tell them from me
I AM APPALLED. By the way is there a similar load of bull shit aimed at men?

When they did the rape advice did they have any for men. For example, dont get that pissed that you think every woman is desperate to have sex with you under any circumstances!

thumbwitch · 29/11/2010 12:58

Well done novicemama! Good result, hope they learn from it. And glad it's gone from the site.

celticfairy101 · 16/09/2010 22:29

Holy fecking shit. I mean...really?

Has Freud come back from the dead? Why should women in South Africa working for AXA not be treated the same way as women working in England?

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 16/09/2010 21:54

Not sure how I missed this the first time, but the writer is moaning on about his mother not freezing meals in advance before she went into hospital. Selfish cow!

ullainga · 16/09/2010 15:35

oh and didn't they say that the article will be removed? Is this the same site:
eu.healthinsite.net/ContentViewerPane/ContentViewerPane.aspx?cookie=2100004027&Content=5914&ContentType=2

they even have a separate category "women at work". apparently this is something very rare and peculiar, women working. otherwise they would have "Men at work" category too, but I can't see one.

tabouleh · 15/09/2010 15:03

novicemama if you are concerned about your anonymity (i.e. this linking you to previous threads) you can ask MNHQ to change your old posts into a different name.

It just goes to show how things like this can get picked up in the media.

ullainga · 15/09/2010 14:58

it should! I bet there are a lot of women out there though who don't understand what all the fuss is about, of course they will put socks ready for hubby for every day they are gone and leave instructions like "bigger child (second bedroom from the left) has to be taken to school by 8.30, address..".

Or ask their mothers to come stay over so the children would not be neglected and alone (with dad).

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novicemama · 15/09/2010 13:45

OMG ladies, I did NOT know that this had reached the news pages of the Telegraph and the Andrew Marr programme!

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LadyBlaBlah · 12/09/2010 19:42

Fiona Phillips mentioned this on the Andrew Marr programme this morning.

ChaoticAngel · 12/09/2010 16:53

Novicemama can I suggest you email them suggesting that their 'psychology' writer seeks counselling for his issues.

pinkfizzle · 12/09/2010 08:38

Hey Novicemama - I hope your work have not outed you?

JustAnotherManicMummy · 12/09/2010 01:45

How depressing that even after national press attention there's no apology?! A defence even of the article.

If I presented that load of clap trap before an employment Tribunal as indicative of company attitudes I'd be expecting a hefty payout.

Bastards Angry

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 12/09/2010 01:30

ooh yes nannynick.

Am a little hurt now that they didn't quote my immortal shitting arse line.

Katisha · 11/09/2010 23:16

Actually the thing that made my stomach churn was the unutterable tweeness. Hubby... Munching on Mommy's meals... Feel really quite queasy.

nannynick · 11/09/2010 23:03

It has made the Telegraph and the online article links directly to this thread.

chaya5738 · 11/09/2010 20:13

It is so bad it is funny. Any chance you could let a newspaper know about this - this company deserves to be exposed.

sprogger · 11/09/2010 20:00

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Northernlurker · 11/09/2010 01:15

You've got to wonder about the qulaifications their 'psychology' writer has. Hmm

Good for you OP - what a load of bollocks!

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 11/09/2010 01:07

it's been said before, SSM :o