'MILF' - offensive or not?

I think it is vulgar and offensive to the extreme. If I heard someone using the phrase about me I would not be flattered at all. If I heard my sin using it he would get short thrift.

That's the thing Pip. You;re supposed to flattered because no one else will look at you.

So you have to be content with being decreed a milf from some some spotty oik that you wouldn't have considered even way before having children

Or thats what they'd have us think

Trying to imagine the appropriate reaction to being called a MILF. Lowered eyelashes and demure blush? Perhaps an "Ooh, you are a naughty boy but I like you"?
Am I really supposed to be flattered?

I think it means to be seen as a sexual object
I object to it and find it offensive

everyone likes to feel desirable but having this 'desirability' reduced to being a fuck object is quite vile and not the least bit affirming

The amount of people (read MEN) who when they realise I have a child - its quite funny to see the gear shift. Hell. Sometimes you even hear it

It's indicative of a general lack of respect for women.

yep, i have shamelessly listened at the bedroom door many-a-time, for their own good of course . I was a very good teenager if their conversations are anything to go by.

Yeah, the implication is definitely that once a female has given birth she generally ceases to be of interst and can only overcome this by being sexually attractive and available.

Completely offensive.

To me its like saying any woman who has give birth is unworthy of a shag.

But a MILF has special appeal

Oh really booyhoo?
I remember harbouring crushes on a couple of friends dads but would have died rather than admit it

falling, can i just say, having been the guardian for a teenage girl and providing food and shelter for her friends on occasion that they do indeed discuss which of their fathers they would like to fuck.

they don't actually mean it, they do it to wind each other up.

I'll take any compliments I can get at the ripe old age of 40.

Try googling DILF, it's enlightening.

i was just thinking what an appropriate response to someone saying this would be but fallingwithstyle has gotten there before me;
"why on earth do you think i want to hear about where you'd like to shove your penis"

Of course it's offensive. It reduces a woman to being a sex object and a mother. It also implies that mothers are normally too aged and haggard to be attractive, so spotting one worthy of a fuck is worth commenting on.

Try replacing the 'M' with other typical femal roles and see if they seem inoffensive.
Daughter, sister etc.

Yuck.

Agree: hideous, vulgar, foul.

If someone said, "she's nice/interesting/funny, I'd like to get to know her better" then that is a compliment. But saying "she's a MILF" (i.e. she will be the passive recipient of my attentions, whether she wants it or not) is like calling her a blow-up doll.
Vile.

I'd have more patience for a teenager saying it I suppose. But in the context of a group of young lads talking about women among themselves it's no better than just saying "I wnat to fuck X"
Imagine a group of teenage girls and the conversation getting round to which of each others dad's they'd like to shag...don't think it would happen.

We have a neighbour who has chosen MILF as her vanity plate

What kind of classless sad act nobber would actually say this?

And in what situation would it be anything other than freaky?

Either he has no romntic/ sexual history with the woman in which case why on earth does he think she wants to hear about where he'd like to shove his penis?

Or they are dating/flirting in which case...how very seductive

See I first encountered this term amongst teenagers (decades ago) when describing their parents friends. And was basically their way of saying your mum is really attractive. It would always end with the commentator getting the micky taken out of them and was generally meant in a non threatening way.

What i do think is when grown up use it to describe the intention that they would possibly act out. Then it annoys me.

I think i must just have a liberal view as ds swearing doesnt bother me either. Its the situation in which he swears.

Different people, different rules different opinions.

It is hideous and vulgar.I would be so disappointed in my ds's if they used that term.

It's foul.

Firstly the recipient of this compliment is being categorised into porn grouping - twenty years ago it would have been Bored Housewife - and secondly how does going up to someone and saying "I wouldn't mind fucking you" suddenly become ok when you change the words to "you're a mum I'd like to fuck"?

Also I think its smacks of blokes expecting mothersto be grateful for any kind sexual attention.

ooh don't know.
good question....

I think it's offensive in the same way much of the porn industry is offensive.