all those 'strippers/lap dances on stag weekend' threads

oh yes, it makes you think

and be aware

and make it clear where your own boundaries lie

I don't make the mistake of thinking it can never happen to me, no sirr-eeeee

Very true, AnyFucker. My DH knows that one wiff of an affair and it's over.

But it makes you think...

Sakura, it is very obvious to me that eveyone's opinion on this will differ depending on their own experiences

I don't, and never have, moved in circles where going to a strip club is the "norm"

My husband, and all his friends, would not consider prioritising such a visit above the feelings of their partners

I know this. I have known them all for 25 years. Anybody who tries to tell me I am naive, and "most" men are at it, I laugh in their face

Because, you see, I think it very much depends on the men that you know (and the behaviour you are prepared to accept)

My Japanese friend worked in a male dominated industry where men used to fly from all over the country to the capital. She was a money broker in Tokyo.

She said every single man without fail was unfaithful to his wife.
It put her off marriage completely.
Now there may be a cultural issue (Japan) but it tells me that yes, most men will put other men above their wives any day.

aye, so much more imprtant what other MEN think of you. what women think of you - meh - not so much.............

It may sound silly, but I think there's a lot of pressure for men in a group to behave a certain way, especially when it's 'the lads' on a night out together.

I'm positive that in normal circumstances, some of the men I worked with wouldn't have dreamt of visiting a brothel unless they were put under extreme pressure to by their colleagues. What disgusted me the most was how weak-minded they were - and not giving a moment's consideration to their wives and children at home.

In fact I think it's only one who is interested to go so he keeps suggesting it but is vetoed every time by everyone else.
So much for all men want to go to strip clubs/lap dancing places!

Good for your Dh and for you!!!!

Same with my dh - he doesn't go on these trips either - he genuinely doesn't like it. Some friends (one in particular) keep suggesting but he always refuses. Prefers chatting in the pub.

About 20 years ago I worked with a team of men in sales and about 10 of them were treated to a day trip to France as their sales were very high. Pretty much all of them were married and ALL of them visited a brothel while they were there.

My partner is the same about strip places and the like. He's a builder and about half of his colleagues are like him, and half enjoy occasionally going to places like that, although the ones he's friends with are like him! He finds them degrading to women and is horrified by some of the stories in the press and on TV about young girls/women aspiring to be 'glamour' models and the like. We have a 16-month-old daughter...

my dh isn't a fan of them but he has been to them on stag do's and it really doesn't bother me. He is off on another stag do the weekend and i have budgeted for him to go in as i wouldn't expect him not to go if the rest of the blokes are

My dh used to work in an environment where the mainly younger lads often headed to a strip club. At which point he'd usually go and have a curry with the other people who weren't keen, or come home. I expect some of the blokes thought he was a bit straight laced, but it didn't seem to other him (it was a high banter office). At the time we were mostly separated, so it certianly wasn't for my sake. Just that he had a bit more integrity (and likes a good curry!).

Great thread And great post from E&M too - funny how us lot are the ones who get accused of man-hating when we express the idea that loads of men might actually want to do the right thing off their own bat.

Ahh, nice to read this x

I remember your thread

Oh welldone Swishswish's DP!

"Bet he got hell from his mates though." - not necessarily - I understand that often it is a minority of blokes at such an event that want to go to a lapdancing club.

My DH was at a stag do a couple of months ago and when this was suggested by 1 bloke he said to the groom "you don't want to go there do you" - knowing the groom isn't that type of guy - groom said "no" so my DH said to the 1 bloke "look no-one wants to go". This was not challenged so they didn't go .

Good for your DP.

Bet he got hell from his mates though.

Great news, lovely man

Buy him a 'this is what a feminist looks like t-shirt', he deserves one.

How refreshing.

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! You got a good one there.

Good for him, Swishswish.

And - sorry about this but it has to be said - stick that up your arse in your pipe and smoke it, all you man-hating non-feminists out there! Men aren't helpless mindless boner-slaves after all, halle-bloody-lujah

Good to hear Swishswish.

On the stag nights my dh has been to there usually ends up being two (or more) groups. Those who want to visit strip clubs and those who would prefer to sit in a pub drinking pints and talking.

There are lots of men out there who prefer the latter option.

DH won't go to one of those. He says that as the father of daughters, they make him sick.