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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

straight pornography is male gay in sensibility

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Heathcliffscathy · 22/07/2010 13:09

This came to me in a wave of inspiration...straight porn is a hypermasculinised view of sex. Hypermasculinity has it's place in the pantheon of what it means to be a gay male (not all, not every, by any means).

straight porn is totally phallocentric: penetrative to the exclusion of all else and the builds up to an inevitable anal sex finale, or blowjob come shot/facial.

the vagina plays second (third?) fiddle to anus and mouth and size is all. breast stimulation gets barely a look in.

bear with this as I know it's treading a dodgy generalisation line, but it does strike me that if you were to argue that male gay sexuality (as a generalisation, i know that there is a vast continuum out there that we are all on male and female) is the zenith of hypermasculanised male sexuality, then mainstream straight porn is pretty gay?

Do you think it's possible that the homoerotic is so repressed in 'straight' man that it has to find it's outlet in porn, which leaves women utterly hard done by porn wise?

i know there is a strong argument to suggest that straight porn is just about degrading women and undoubtedly that's in there a lot of the time but could there be another basis to it?

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sethstarkaddersmum · 22/07/2010 20:04

what an interesting discussion.

with discussions about misogyny in fashion it often comes back to the fact that lots of designers and other men in the fashion industry are gay. Can a similar thing be said about the porn industry?

vesuvia · 22/07/2010 20:02

Oh sorry for misundertanding

ISNT · 22/07/2010 19:54

No you misunderstood me completely!

I mean that the demand is for women who look very different, in order to make the viewer feel more comfortable. I mean that maybe men like porn with these very strange looking women, because when porn is made with normal looking women, men don't like it as it makes them feel uncomfortable.

Just a thought

It is definitely true though that the typical look of a porn star is a look that men claim not to find very attractive (and in fact many seem to say they find that "look" quite scary), so it does beg the question, why is that the look which is in these films?

vesuvia · 22/07/2010 19:43

ISNT wrote - "Do the women look so strange to create a sense of distance between them and what they are doing"

Wouldn't that suggest that porn "actresses" were dictating the terms of their appearance? I think they are picked by the producers for their look rather than the other way around. I suspect the producers are unlikely to care about the distance a porn actress feels from her "work".

TheCrackFox · 22/07/2010 19:33

Pornography is all about worshipping the penis. I have noticed, however, that the male stars are all completely fugly.

ISNT · 22/07/2010 19:25

Do the women look so strange to create a sense of distance between them and what they are doing/having done to them and real actual women that men know? As they would feel really uncomfortable watching it if the women looked like normal real women that they might actually know in real life and fancy?

Don't know.

Also my viewing of porn is not very extensive, and so it's possible that what I have seen is one "type" and in fact there are lots of others around, rendering my point nonsense!

ISNT · 22/07/2010 19:22

Interesting.

I have a few random thoughts

Mainly that pornography is mainy made by men, for men, and so the anal sex/penis/penetration/come shots are presumably what turns on the people who are making the films. So I would say that teh prevalence of these practices isn't to do with homosexuality but just to do with male sexuality, and specifically the male sexuality of the men making these films. There is also the drive for everything to get more and more extreme - porn has changed enormously over the last 30 years or however long, in the same way that everything on television/film has got more extreme. And people watch it because it's what they're presented with, and get used to it, and desensitised and so on.

Having said that, reading the coke/porn thread, and the one where someone said that leg models for tights were usually male legs (don't know if that's true) and the trans threads. Anyway, it occured to me that the women in porn often resemble a male physique with breasts stuck on rather than an actual woman IYSWIM. Apart from the vagina, obviously! But the typical porny style physique is very thin, fairly straight, with pneumatic plastic immovable breasts stuck on the front. OTOH (as men I know never tire of pointing out) the women they actually want to see with no clothes on are curvier and with natural breasts. The women on page 3 often look much more "normal" and softer and more natural than the women in porn (thinking mainly american porn TBH).

I don't know if there is a point in there somewhere. But it does seem odd. Who are these very thin plastic women aimed at? Men watch it because it's what's given to them, but in fact most men don't even seem to fancy women who look like that IYSWIM.

It's all very odd.

MillyR · 22/07/2010 17:01

I don't believe that psychoanalysts are arguing that anymore, are they? Surely there aren't still professionals around who believe homosexuality is some kind of mental health problem?

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Heathcliffscathy · 22/07/2010 13:45

ok now for the really controversial bit...

if, as the psychoanalysts argue, a part of the emergence of a male gay sexuality (the psychosocial part, as opposed to the possible role of genes etc, all of which play a role in all of our sexualities) is difficulty, making the transition to same sex identification which can result from a man-hating mother (dominant mother who for whatever reason unconscious or not trashes the father, who may or may not be absent) then that very lack of identification with the male might well be underpinned by a rage against the female.

puissance is poncey french word for power. i'm sure you did know that!!!

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dittany · 22/07/2010 13:41

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Heathcliffscathy · 22/07/2010 13:36

not at all, but that there might be another element to it and i think that the repression (total and massively fear driven) in 'straight' males of their desire for other males might be a relevant factor. it somehow makes sense to me...i know my argument isn't very cogent!

you know, doesn't abuse come from a place of fear? and might that fear not just be fear of woman's intrinsic creative puissance but fear of man's own desire...for other men?

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dittany · 22/07/2010 13:26

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Heathcliffscathy · 22/07/2010 13:19

and i don't agree that necessarily fucking in every orifice is degrading.

although the way it is portrayed in most porn undoubtedly is.

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Heathcliffscathy · 22/07/2010 13:18

dittany read my post: the vagina is just not of great interest, neither are the breasts...it's all about anal sex and blow jobs.

totally penis-centric penetration centric and revolving around the orifices that men have and sidelining female ones.

does that make more sense?

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dittany · 22/07/2010 13:15

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