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Please help me .start reading again I am desperate

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chegirl · 08/09/2009 19:18

I know its a bit needy cheeky but I could do with a hand.

I used to read a lot,since I was tiny. I loved books. I also studied so read academic stuff no problem.

Then my beautiful girl got very sick. I coped by not thinking to deeply or concentrating on much other than her and the kids. Then we lost her and I just seemed unable to concentrate anymore at all.

I tried to start my degree again and simply could not cope with the required reading

I miss it so much. I am sick of the tv and spend far to much time on the mumsnet the internet.

My favourite writer is Barbara Comyns but I have read all hers. I HATE misery lit with a passion. I enjoyed Coming Home and The Cammomile Lawn. I liked The Lovely Bones. My guilty pleasure is Monica Dickens.

I love the classics but find them too hard to get through so listen to them on audio. Hardy is my fav.

I suppose I like to read about people, specially ecentrics.

I need something very well written but not too complex as my concentration is still not 100%. I like biogs but not slebs stuff. I am afraid I am not ready for anything too gut/heart wrenching.

Is there any hope for me? Can anyone please help. If I get some good suggestions I will go right to Amazon and order them. I want to regain a pleasure that I have lost due to that fecking illness that took my girl

Bit dramatic but its true (or how I feel at least).

Ta

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elkiedee · 09/09/2009 00:26

I really love Barbara Comyns' books too. Anne Tyler, more Mary Wesley, Nancy Mitford's novels, Jessica's memoirs. They all seem to be out of print but I enjoyed Elizabeth Pewsey's Mountjoy books if you can find any of them secondhand - they're about eccentric independent minded characters in a small fictitious Yorkshire town, I think. You might also enjoy Molly Keane aka M J Farrell - again, I'm not sure how easy to find they are - like Barbara Comyns, she was rediscovered by Virago. Stevie Smith, Sybille Bedford, Barbara Trapido, Kate Atkinson, Rose Macaulay.

Memoirs by people who are not celebrities but have really good stories to tell - Jennifer Worth's Call the Midwife, by a woman who trained as a midwife with an order of nuns in the East End in the 1950s, though she wasn't one herself. I'm currently reading her third book of memoirs, Farewell to the East End. Winifred Foley's memoir of growing up in the New Forest is recently reprinted under a new title which I can't remember just now.

drosophila · 08/09/2009 22:23

Confessions of a failed southern lady - Florence King

Any of Alice Hoffman

Do you think you could read a thriller?

My sister who was really struggling to read loved William Shatner's Biog. She reckoned it was terribly funny.

stickylittlefingers · 08/09/2009 22:10

That's great! Do hope it works out for you - you deserve some joy after all you've been through.

chegirl · 08/09/2009 22:07

I have just ordered 3 books from amazon. I wont say which ones just now. Have also made a note of the others for when I am shopping and can browse the charity shops

janeite thanks for that note. I would consider children's books. Though I have to say anything specifically aimed at young teenage girls would probably upset me. DD was a prolific reader and I loved buying books for her.

I think I am really ready to start reading again. I suppose I had to wait till it was right. I may never have to watch daytime tv ever again

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janeite · 08/09/2009 21:47

Maybe no to 'Notes From An Exhibition' in the circumstances though? Sorry but it would be so awful for Che to pick it up as a light-ish read and then be put off by the subject matter.

Would you consider children's books, Che, as there are some beautiful ones, either for first discovery, or for re-reading?

chegirl · 08/09/2009 21:43

Thank you all so much. I am off to amazon and will be looking out in charity shops too. Feel quite excited

Thanks again.

(I love the Mitfords too, though horrified at them at the same time).

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BrigitBigKnickers · 08/09/2009 21:32

"Notes from an exhibition" Patrick Gale- easy to read but beautifully written.

stickylittlefingers · 08/09/2009 21:28

Try Rosy Thornton? - light but intelligent.

When mine were very little I read Harry Potters and all the Narnia books, and all the E Nesbits (lovely dp got me a beautiful edition of each of the latter!) Blissful!

I also really like Arnold Bennett - rather neglected, but really good and extremely readable. I read the Grand Babylon Hotel through the night between feeds!

I do hope you get your reading back - it is so important to sanity... without running and reading I'd be even more of a nutcase

claudialyman · 08/09/2009 21:15

When I cant concentrate to read I start re-reading old faves, even classics from childhood. You dont get discouraged at not following the story if youre re-reading but will get more out of any decent book on a re-read.

If you like character-driven but well-written books give joanna trollope a go > will definately feature in charity shops and surprisingly well-written for a light read.

And for bio thats not misery-lit Joan Didions "The Year of Magical thinking" and Sheila Hancocks second book "Just Me", both on living with loss.

And def Anne Tyler

nickytwotimes · 08/09/2009 20:21

Oh, yes, yes, yes to the wonderful Anne Tyler.

littlerach · 08/09/2009 20:20

What about Anne Tyler?
Plus she has written loads.

I'd second teh Mitfords, they are brilliant.

chegirl · 08/09/2009 20:17

Thank you all so much. I am making a note of all of these They sound brilliant and I am really pleased you have taken the time to help me.

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janeite · 08/09/2009 20:17

Ooh have just thought of something else that i think would be perfect for you, Che: Miss Pettigrew Lives For A Day.

MrsPigeon · 08/09/2009 20:14

Chegirl, I am so sorry about your little girl.

I reckon you would like Elizabeth Jane Howard - try The Beautiful Visit or the Cazalet tetralogy (the first one is called The Light Years). I got into EJH recently and sounds like just what you are looking for - engaging stories and rich characters with a good sprinkling of eccentrics but not demanding.

or how about Barbara Pym - Jane and Prudence is the easiest to get hold of. Her books are wonderful.

would also second anything by Nancy Mitford. If you like Mary Wesley then maybe some Joanna Trollopes like The Choir?

Hope you find something good xx

SleepingLion · 08/09/2009 20:02

Mine too, piscesmoon!

MovingOutOfBlighty · 08/09/2009 20:01

If you like Georgette Heyer then def try Jude Morgan - just the same regency froth. The heroines are a fiesty lot!

piscesmoon · 08/09/2009 20:01

Just agreeing with SleepingLion- Frederica is good too.I like Devil's Cub.

piscesmoon · 08/09/2009 19:59

The Grand Sophy is the one to start with-my favourite.

SleepingLion · 08/09/2009 19:52

Oh, I agree that Georgette Heyer is just what you need. They are my reading equivalent of a comfort blanket. Start off with something like The Grand Sophy or Frederica - it is a gorgeous gorgeous world to lose yourself in. Just enough drama, romance without being Mills and Boon-y and you know that you're guaranteed a happy ending.

Janet Evanovich writes very very light novels set in New Jersey about an inept bounty hunter called Stephanie Plum - they are laugh-out-loud funny. Bonus: the two gorgeous men in her life One For the Money is the first one and if you like them, she's just brought out number 15 so they'll keep you busy for a while!

Will have a think of some more. I really hope you get your reading mojo back...

barbarianoftheuniverse · 08/09/2009 19:50

Nancy Mitford's The Pursuit of Love and Love in a Cold Climate. Funny and posh and sort of endearing in an eccentric kind of way.

Mary Wesley wrote quite a few others, although I always liked the C Lawn best. You might look at them.

Early Jilly Cooper makes me smile. And there is one called The Common Years that you can dip in and out of, a sort of diary she wrote when her children were little. Lots of characters, very well written.

Do you like history? Sometimes it is nice to escape backwards. There is a very light and cheerful story based on Anna of Cleves called Amenable Women that I read recently and enjoyed.

Reading is such a gift of freedom. I hope it comes back to you.

piscesmoon · 08/09/2009 19:47

I love Georgette Heyer for a comfort read. I seem to have 'grown out' of a lot of books over the years and yet the strange thing is I loved Regency romances as a teenager and I still like them today. I don't read them often, but I must have read them all several times and yet still like them!

catinthehat2 · 08/09/2009 19:46

and eccentrics CHECK CHECK CHECK

catinthehat2 · 08/09/2009 19:45

Elmore Leonard all the way in this situation. Writing style is highly approachable - the Dickens of Detroit. So many movies are based on these books.Read so many in the middle of the night while breasrfeeding.

very well written CHECK
but not too complex CHECK
nothing too gut/heart wrenching CHECK

janeite · 08/09/2009 19:43

I am so, so sorry.

How about some Georgette Heyer (am only just getting into her after lots of recs on here)? She is like Austen crossed with Jilly Cooper, so easy reads but lots of accurate historical detail and quite feisty women.

MovingOutOfBlighty · 08/09/2009 19:35

Chegirl, I don't know what to say. So sorry.

I know that if you like the classics, like Jane Austen, but want something light, any books by Jude Morgan are just strangely enjoyable. It is like Pride and Prejudice but in a non heavy way.
I think the best one was called Indescretion and had a light blue cover. Was a chance finding in a library and now a bit addicted.

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