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we have a problem in our book club

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hermykne · 05/06/2008 14:55

to kinda sum up, one member is not as literary as the rest of us, i am trying to explain this without sounding snobby but certain words are needed to explain this proble,

she always arrives late and so misses the "book" review.
she has read maybe 2/3 books out of the 16/18 we have done. she hasnt even read the awful ones she picks.

she is very confrontational, when points are raised or opinions about the "book" or general chit chat.

its really annoying, it changes the whole ambiance to the evening, last one 3 of us went home furious with her.

i would say she is naive and this doesnt help and shes protecting her ability to be considered a book reader by being so defensive.

anyway one member W sent a txt to another (Z) asking if the problem re her (U) attendance had been solved - text to all nxt event is on X and one must have read the book to attend-

receiver of txt (Z) replied and sent it to our problem member instead (U), stating yes and maybe she'll read the book.

so Z and U had a talk and she was defensive as usual

what to do
we are having a summer recess as some of the other memebrs just cant listen to her silliness for much longer, and these are older members, she is our youngest.
so

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Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:55

That is so embarrassing.

Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:55

Oh my god! Didn't you. I really apologize if that is the case, and I have got this wrong.

hermykne · 05/06/2008 18:54

confederate what are u talking about - i never used those phrases

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Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:53

Yeah. And then she asked us to bring our partners if we had one, for a social evening once a month.

morningpaper · 05/06/2008 18:53

I'm not surprised they were quiet and nervous!

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:52

favourite book

how late it was how late james kelman

morningpaper · 05/06/2008 18:52

v hislop was the worst book I read last year

painfully bad

but Stephen Fry is a god, you can't not like him

Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:52

Well, kind of, we did yes morningpaper! She interviewed us in her kitchen first, and then asked us to come back the next week to meet the rest of the group.

I didn't even like the group very much. They were all quite quiet and nervous.

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:51

my most hated authors are jane austen emily bronte v hislop
kiran desai
anne enright

stephen fry

and especially ian mcewan

morningpaper · 05/06/2008 18:49

loo confederate that is scary

did you have a panel interview as well?

Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:48

Oh well they were quite personal some of them.

And there was a section on 'reading preferences' and another on 'most hated authors' and then some personal stuff.

She was looking for 'cohesion and fluency' within the group.

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:48

if i post enough i am hoping someone will invite me to join their book group i can read

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:47

did you have to do blood brothers too

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:46

ooh what were the questions confederate babe

Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:46

In my old US book club we had to fill in a questionnaire before we joined.

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:44

lol

well you could always disband the groupand then secretly reconvene

with out her obviously

or tell her she has had 18 seesions on probation as per rule 1006 and you have all voted to show her the door

Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:40

Oh do I? Is the name a give away?

But you know there's that very formal way of saying things which the English manage to say much more simply. Like 'I can't come to this book club anymore, U is driving me NUTS' rather than 'I am going to have to request a leave of absence for a short period.'

MargaretMountford · 05/06/2008 18:40

don't you drink at book group then , or eat crisps ? perhaps that's the problem ? wine and discussion= perfect book group harmony

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:39

confederate are you american you deffo sound it

morningpaper · 05/06/2008 18:38

lol

It sounds like fun

ALL RIGHT what about this - meet 30 minutes earlier. If she can't make it for the first hour or so, you can have your serious discussion then. Job done!

zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:38

maybe you see too much of each other..that s alot of meet ups

is it all the same people?

Confederate · 05/06/2008 18:38

Are you American?

You sound American, with all the talk of 'recess' and someone asking for 'leave of absence' or something from the book club?

Have you talked to her about it? If not, why not?

hermykne · 05/06/2008 18:37

Margaret you need to read my postings - we do lighten up fri/sat and sundays...

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zippitippitoes · 05/06/2008 18:35

because hermykne we are bloody annoying

MargaretMountford · 05/06/2008 18:35

you need to lighten up - book groups are meant to be fun

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