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Parenting / Family / Child Psychology books that have affected you

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Walnutshell · 18/07/2007 20:23

I can almost hear the groans as I type the topic title, but here goes:

Any recommendations for a good read, something a bit challenging to stir the old grey matter please.

Thanks

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 22:01

Pistachio, I have that book, it's wonderful. I'm so glad you mentioned it. x

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:51

You've pretty much sold me there, barking. And, um, I was initially quite terrified by the mugshot so relieved to read your addendum! Thanks for your postings on my other thread too, I just checked.

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barking · 22/07/2007 21:44

try not to be scared by the photograph of the authors

barking · 22/07/2007 21:42

Walnutshell - it can even help grown ups infact, I have even used some of their techniques while 'communicating' with my husband and it really works. If you search the archives under thread titles, you will find hundreds of mumsnetters who have sung its praises.
how to talk website

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:42

Hah! Crease at your poor sister! It's all about instinct and balance and compromise...

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moondog · 22/07/2007 21:39

Thanks barking.Will check it out.

moondog · 22/07/2007 21:38

Yes
I grew up in the Pacific and that was pretty much the norm.

Re that Three in a Bed though (and I have told this tale before on MN),my sister (archetypal lentil weaver) bought it and was won over.

Eighteen months later when her life had been destroyed by her non sleeping marital bed hogging offspring,she rang me in tears bawling

'I'd like to shoot that fucking bitch who wrote 'Three in a fucking bed'!'

barking · 22/07/2007 21:38

Moondog - there is a website dedicated to the book - continuum concept
trying to remember the facts - the author is jean liedloff, whom, as a anthropology student visited the amazon jungle and studied the yequana tribe, while there she observed that their babies didn't cry and went back for a year to find out how and why.......

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:36

"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk"

Looks good, relevant to all ages?

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:34

"According to Jean Liedloff, the continuum concept is the idea that in order to achieve optimal physical, mental and emotional development, human beings ? especially babies ? require the kind of experience to which our species adapted during the long process of our evolution. For an infant, these include such experiences as...

constant physical contact with his mother (or another familiar caregiver as needed) from birth;
sleeping in his parents' bed, in constant physical contact, until he leaves of his own volition (often about two years);
breastfeeding "on cue" ? nursing in response to his own body's signals;
being constantly carried in arms or otherwise in contact with someone, usually his mother, and allowed to observe (or nurse, or sleep) while the person carrying him goes about his or her business ? until the infant begins creeping, then crawling on his own impulse, usually at six to eight months;
having caregivers immediately respond to his signals (squirming, crying, etc.), without judgment, displeasure, or invalidation of his needs, yet showing no undue concern nor making him the constant center of attention;
sensing (and fulfilling) his elders' expectations that he is innately social and cooperative and has strong self-preservation instincts, and that he is welcome and worthy."

Kind of nice really.

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moondog · 22/07/2007 21:25

What's The Continuum Concept about then?

barking · 22/07/2007 21:23

the continuum concept
how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:19

Did I really just type RIGHT for WRITE? Must check the % of the Viognier...

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:18

Papillon - I've heard of the continuum concept. I do have Attachment Parenting by the Sears and although I like some of what they right, I find them ever so slightly creepy. I really that is entirely irrational however.

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:16

Yes, Milk, Money and Madness looks interesting. Perhaps I should order it before it sells out forever heh heh

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moondog · 22/07/2007 21:16

Not selling on ABM.I checked.Must be out of print.

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:15

Sorry moon, didn't refresh and read your posts before posting. Yup, STILL after it, I know! What do you think to £24.95??? Am going to check ABM again.

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moondog · 22/07/2007 21:15

People know its worth eh?

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:14

VVV - oh goodness, you're not joking! Now, that looks interesting.

Had a quick glance at 3 in a bed, again, looking good. Thanks. Amazon basket positively bulging, will have to rationalise at some point... Some second hand Politics of BF starting at £24.95.

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moondog · 22/07/2007 21:13

Some available on Amazon but check the price!

That 'Milk,Money and Madness' looks interesting too.

moondog · 22/07/2007 21:10

Ah Walnut are you still after that???

I waould send you mine only it never was mine but the MW's copy.

Have yuo tried ABM again? (There is an Amazon link on their website btw and if you order via it,they get a cut.)

Papillon · 22/07/2007 21:09

www.continuum-concept.org and Dr Sears - books that prodded what already sat in my heart.

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Walnutshell · 22/07/2007 21:08

Maybe I can get The Politics of BF second hand through Amazon, last time I ordered it (months ago) they eventually emailed me to say they couldn't get hold of it.

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taxidriver · 22/07/2007 21:07

i agree with penelope leach, you sit and nod while you are reading.. you are so doing it right.

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