has anyone read surenderedwives by laura doyle?

some parts were infuriating. Others did strike a bit of a cord, such as feeling like the only adult in the house. She suggests this is mainly due to wanting to be in control of evrything for fear that otherwise nothing would get done. She suggests that by giving up always doing things for husband eg booking a dentist appointment/buying his clothes and making small criticisms/suggestions about everything he does shows trust in him, will lead to more intimate relationship and shared responsabilities. She promotes simply stating what you want and providing you partner with an oppurtunity to provideit rather than nagging him into doing something. She also promotes self-care ensuring you do three things a day that make you feel good or feel better after doing them. She is adamant about handing over financial management to your husband, leaving behind anxiety/worry, forcing trust, leading to intimacy and in her opinion he will earn moe money! It was this bit about giving up money control that i was dubious about, my dh is crap with stuff like that, but then again he's never had to do it as i have always had control. she keeps making comparisons between his mother and his wife in how we treat dh - bit scary to mull over. Anyway was worth a read even if just to rant at.