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I’m 50 and became a sex worker last month AMA

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AnyonesAnna · 25/09/2026 19:52

Single, childless and jobless I turned to sex work last month as my new career. AMA

OP posts:
Imdunfer · Yesterday 14:18

BunnyBunbunbun · Yesterday 09:43

Going to the gym or cooking dinner, which offer the rewards of fitness and food respectively, are "work" then?

Have you never heard the expression "I'm working on it" with regards to improving skills and abilities in those areas?

AnyonesAnna · Yesterday 14:17

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · Yesterday 14:11

What are food banks for? And OP sounds relatively intelligent, not like she’s unqualified and no work experience.

Not proud of the fact that I exhausted my local ones quota of how many weeks support you can have much prior to starting this.

OP posts:
Youneedas · Yesterday 14:17

Any clients today?

AnyonesAnna · Yesterday 14:13

Whoopiedooo · Yesterday 13:41

How did that end? Did he pay for 90 minutes in advance?

Two issues I had were

  1. i had no idea of the time whether he’d had his 60 mins or whether we were at 45 or whatever and
  2. Was increasingly panicking when I got up to end it he would cling on tighter and not let me go!

So I said I suddenly felt ill and needed the bathroom and faked sudden onset of sickness to get him to go! He’d paid cash at the start as they all do so that was no issue.

With clients I don’t know now I set an alarm to go off lol

OP posts:
OtterlyAstounding · Yesterday 14:12

Cardomomle · Yesterday 13:59

Thank you for that, @OtterlyAstounding. Both illuminating and depressing.
I hope you're ok now and have moved on successfully with your life 💐

I have, thank you 🧡

TheAmberKoala · Yesterday 14:12

AllezAllezPronto · Yesterday 14:07

The OP started the thread.

What did she expect? It's AMA.

No one forced her.

Yes but it wasn't a question, was it, it was a moral superiority statement.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · Yesterday 14:11

TheAmberKoala · Yesterday 14:05

Maybe, maybe not. But sticking the boot into somebody who was forced to do this to put food on the table isnt exactly useful or kind.

What are food banks for? And OP sounds relatively intelligent, not like she’s unqualified and no work experience.

TheAmberKoala · Yesterday 14:11

Clearingthedecks · 25/09/2026 20:46

I can well believe there's plenty of men in their 70s/80s willing to pay for sex/cuddles in bed with a woman in her 50s. The men feel it's a more likely 'partnership' and don't want to feel like a perv which they might do with a younger woman.
I'm in my 50s and have had a few older men trying it on, some married.

Im in my 50s and certainly had men in 40s/50s hit on me. (I do look a bit younger due to not having grey hair)

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · Yesterday 14:10

AllezAllezPronto · Yesterday 14:07

The OP started the thread.

What did she expect? It's AMA.

No one forced her.

Loads of other things you could do rather than open your legs for sex.

Goditsmemargaret · Yesterday 14:10

shuggles · Yesterday 13:37

@Ved Many women do meet men like this though.

No, they don't.

You don't meet men off "hook up sites" (which are almost universally scam websites). You don't know any women who meet men on "hook up sites." So why claim that there are women who use those sites when you don't know anyone who does?

I know women who do.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · Yesterday 14:09

Augustus40 · Yesterday 14:08

Escorts often put themselves down on their tax form as a model or entertainer. Or massage therapist.

well my brother’s first wife was an exotic dancer when they first met…

Augustus40 · Yesterday 14:08

Escorts often put themselves down on their tax form as a model or entertainer. Or massage therapist.

shuggles · Yesterday 14:08

@AllezAllezPronto You accuse me of watching TV to know about online sites for sex?

That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying the idea that men just meet completely random men for sex comes from American TV shows and dramas. Obviously, this does not happen in real life due to safety considerations.

AllezAllezPronto · Yesterday 14:07

TheAmberKoala · Yesterday 14:05

Maybe, maybe not. But sticking the boot into somebody who was forced to do this to put food on the table isnt exactly useful or kind.

The OP started the thread.

What did she expect? It's AMA.

No one forced her.

TheAmberKoala · Yesterday 14:05

MeowDoku · 25/09/2026 19:59

It's sexual exploitation. Consent can't be purchased

Maybe, maybe not. But sticking the boot into somebody who was forced to do this to put food on the table isnt exactly useful or kind.

AllezAllezPronto · Yesterday 14:03

shuggles · Yesterday 13:35

There are a lot of women on this site who never talk to men and get all of their information about men from TV. Hence why they're in disbelief that a man would have sex with a 50 year old woman, even though the majority of men report being attracted to adult women of all ages.

You're talking about something different. First you were talking about websites to find a partner for sex.
You accuse me of watching TV to know about online sites for sex?
Nope, I am a mature woman who has lived a bit.

As for never talking to men- what a ridiculous comment. Do you not think we work, have hobbies, relatives, friends who are men?

And as I only watch a bit of BBC (usually BBC2) I have no idea about the TV progs you're on about.

Now you've changed it to a discussion about age.

I am older than OP. So are my friends. Many are very much in demand from men sometimes younger, for a new relationship and, if they want it, just strings-free sex.

FirmSnake · Yesterday 14:03

shuggles · Yesterday 13:55

As I said, you didn't read the thread. The first few pages are fixated on OP's age.

Do you think if a 25 year old made a thread about working as a prostitute, people would be expressing their suprise at men wanting to have a sex with a 25 year old? No, they wouldn't.

As I said, there is absolutely nothing unusual or strange about men wanting to have sex with a 50 year old. People who think otherwise live on another planet.

Nobody says there is anything unusual about men wanting to have sex with a 50 year old! Women honestly, genuinely don't need men to tell us that they want to have sex with us even if we're old. We know, I promise.

Cardomomle · Yesterday 13:59

Thank you for that, @OtterlyAstounding. Both illuminating and depressing.
I hope you're ok now and have moved on successfully with your life 💐

Ved · Yesterday 13:58

shuggles · Yesterday 13:55

As I said, you didn't read the thread. The first few pages are fixated on OP's age.

Do you think if a 25 year old made a thread about working as a prostitute, people would be expressing their suprise at men wanting to have a sex with a 25 year old? No, they wouldn't.

As I said, there is absolutely nothing unusual or strange about men wanting to have sex with a 50 year old. People who think otherwise live on another planet.

No-one is saying that!!! (That men don't want to have sex with women over 50!)

And you accuse others of not reading the thread! Go figure!

!

OtterlyAstounding · Yesterday 13:56

Cardomomle · Yesterday 13:22

If you're up to it, perhaps start an AMA. There's a lot of wilful ignorance on here about sex workers and the horrible reality. I think some harsh truths would perhaps stop the romanticism.

I'm not sure I am up to a full AMA, honestly, and it was a very long time ago (a little over 20 years) for only several months, so there's a lot I've wilfully forgotten – and I know so many women have had it so much worse than I did.

In short, my older, abusive boyfriend coerced me into it when I was 16. Initially I was very against it, and then I think as a defence mechanism, I tried to frame it as me being grown up, progressive, and modern, in an attempted to embrace the inevitable. The fact that it was legal for over-18s made it easier for my boyfriend to make me feel prudish and invalid for feeling uncomfortable about it – after all, it was legal!
I worked at a brothel where most of the women were aged 20 – 35, and it was arranged such that the clients 'rented' the rooms from the brothel owner – probably so that we weren't legally employees, although we were treated that way, with expected working hours.
We were paid cash by the clients, who showered in the room prior to sex. There was a large emphasis on the fact that if a woman felt threatened she could call for security, but in practice you didn't want to upset a client, and would try to keep them sweet. The clients usually weren't too pushy, though, ime, but then I tended to get a cherry-picked bunch. While many women just tried to pick up clients who came in to 'browse', the owners often called regular clients and offered appointments with me (in addition, some women went on call-outs, often for clients who wanted two women, or for the rare female client).
Most clients were middle-aged men and very average – loads appeared to be married men on business trips, but there were a lot of lonely singles too. A few young, attractive men, and a few elderly men, but they were outliers.
The women who had been working there long term mostly seemed to be functional drug addicts, and they almost all appeared to have the sort of mental health issues that made holding down a regular job impossible.
I was extremely popular, especially with older men, as although I had a fake ID it was very obvious I was younger than 18, as I looked young for 16, and they loved the chance to have sex with an attractive underage girl. Many of them were weirdly chivalrous and 'kind', which was disturbing in its own way, and most of them wanted to believe that I loved it/they were pleasing me.
It took me a long time to untangle just how fucked up it was.

I know a lot of women (especially if they're still working in the industry) talk about it positively, but I think laws need to be made with the most vulnerable in mind, and normalising sex work by legalising it puts the most vulnerable at higher risk, imo.

shuggles · Yesterday 13:55

FirmSnake · Yesterday 13:50

Yeah, that doesn't say that no men want to have sex with 50 year olds does it? They were referring to another post about OPs sugar daddies.

As I said, you didn't read the thread. The first few pages are fixated on OP's age.

Do you think if a 25 year old made a thread about working as a prostitute, people would be expressing their suprise at men wanting to have a sex with a 25 year old? No, they wouldn't.

As I said, there is absolutely nothing unusual or strange about men wanting to have sex with a 50 year old. People who think otherwise live on another planet.

Cardomomle · Yesterday 13:54

TheLiftedLash · Yesterday 13:42

I’ve worked in men’s clothing retail and they absolutely did my head in. Fat, balding, no taste in clothes, boring as f*ck and entitled with it. I hated massaging their egos with “ohhh yes, you do look good in that”, “yes, that colour suits you”.

I can’t imagine having to get down and dirty with them 🤮

I hope the op gets paid a fortune for having to do that.

What?! You mean.... you're not jealous of her? 😉

Augustus40 · Yesterday 13:52

You only need to register on adultwork to see the evidence. Id is needed though now.

FirmSnake · Yesterday 13:50

shuggles · Yesterday 13:46

You did not read the thread.

"I don’t believe it either. These men want young women. Unless you are a professional Mother to men with adult baby fetishes, or some other specialist fetish."

Edited

Yeah, that doesn't say that no men want to have sex with 50 year olds does it? They were referring to another post about OPs sugar daddies.

Augustus40 · Yesterday 13:50

It is quite possible to see 5 clients a week age 52. A friend of a friend does. There are escorts in their sixties these days too. Not unusual any longer. Plus a few in their 70s though they get face work done to compete.

If the op is actually seeing 2 to 3 clients a day then this can only be beginners luck. It is unlikely to continue this plentiful due to the global economy as the escort sector is less than half as buoyant since covid. Let alone the cost of living crisis and Iran. I hear these days quite a few are even taking up minimum wage jobs now rather than struggling.