I’m 50 and became a sex worker last month AMA

Well we will have to agree to disagree.

Calling it "sex work" (which sort of sounds like working behind the counter in Ann Summers rather than having a man stick his penis in your vagina/mouth/ anus) does not make it any better.

Sex is not a commodity to sell.

Consent is not a commodity for sale.

Prostitution can never empower women, it only degrades them.

To say otherwise is part of the modern fallacy that doing what men want is good for women.

Prostitution is only good for men but we are manipulated into thinking this is all part of the new feminism and is our choice.

Improved "working conditions" such as what exactly? Coffee breaks? Holiday pay?

As regards the needs of ugly men or disabled men, men's sexual wants are not women's responsibility.

We aren't rentable holes for them to ejaculate into.

I would also say that neither looks or disability is a block to having a relationship anyway.

If it is such a positive and empowering choice would anyone be proudly celebrating their daughter starting her new "job" as a prostitute? Photo on facebook in her new uniform and wishing her luck? Congratulations from friends?

Have you ever had sex when you don't want to?

I have and I can tell you it is the most soul destroying thing in the world.

Letting somebody into your body whilst you mentally distance yourself from reality harms you and anyone who says anything different is lying to themselves.

What about men who can't get sex because of how they look or a disability? What if they have a specific 'need' that most women wouldn't be interested in. Are those men not allowed to pay for a service if someone is willing to offer it?

Why is it always one or the other. There are shades of grey and blanket condemnations don't benefit anyone.

The only reason women in sex work would be objectified is because people like you shame them and tell them to feel bad. If their working conditions improved and they were seen as fully empowered women in charge of their bodies and their finances, no one would see them as victims or objects.

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Common Law Principle (Ex Turpi Causa): In traditional common law systems (including the UK and many other countries), courts apply the legal maxim ex turpi causa non oritur actio—meaning no legal action can arise from an illegal or immoral cause. Contracts related to prostitution or commercial sex are typically deemed void, contrary to public policy, and unenforceable

so yes - talking out your ass

I feel I have more self worth … I started off with low self esteem and low confidence.

I know it’s based on sex but now have multiple men of all ages buying me gifts and requesting to pay for time with me multiple times a day.

My self esteem, confidence and self worth has gone through the roof!

Im not looking for a husband or Richard Gere. And I have little emotional attachment to sex. But I’m feeling more in control of my life and better within myself.

Surely talking on the phone for a couple of hours has to be preferable to actually having sex?
At least you can get some housework done simultaneously while you go hands free

Why can't she enforce her contracts with her clients? You know sex work is legal (under specific circumstances). If she has a contract with a client and it's breached, she absolutely can enforce it.

that is what you said
and you were wrong

I recall saying if you couldn't enforce the contract, then we need to fight to change that.

you didn’t

Still chuckling that the Op thinks she has a sugar daddy

5 years older than her 😆

What do you mean unseen effort

What the flipping heck does “mentored” you mean in reality??

If you're at home do you change the sheets between clients? If not how often do you change them?

Didn’t register with an agency … someone in the industry mentored me for 2/3 weeks, and I did some ffm jobs initially with regular verified clients to get me in to it gradually (two girl with one male client - which if you think about it is half the work for more money!) …

I did 17 appointment's like that over a 3 day long weekend.

Yes in theory 🙄

Illegal - right, but sex work isn't illegal.

Immoral - it used to be 'immoral' to be an unwed mother. Doubt that would hold up and this needs testing in court. Who is deciding in 2026 what is 'immoral'.

Quote which part of anything I have said is "talking out of my arse"..

I recall saying if you couldn't enforce the contract, then we need to fight to change that. Was that what you were referring to?

You sound like you're a teenager, so I'll leave you to it.

Who wants to hear any crazy stories?

Illegal - right, but sex work isn't illegal.

Immoral - it used to be 'immoral' to be an unwed mother. Doubt that would hold up and this needs testing in court. Who is deciding in 2026 what is 'immoral'.

Quote which part of anything I have said is "talking out of my arse"..

I recall saying if you couldn't enforce the contract, then we need to fight to change that. Was that what you were referring to?

You sound like you're a teenager, so I'll leave you to it.