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Husband not happy with me working from home undertaking calls.

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ThisTealWarrior · 24/09/2026 11:42

Hi all so my job role involves some court hearing. When I work from home and need to attend a hearing I usually do into the kitchen as there is a plain background rather then in the rest of the house with signs of family life behind. Now this morning I said to my husband I’ve got a hearing, not sure how long so avoid the kitchen while door is closed. About an hour into it just as I am speaking he comes into the room. He can hear me talking. If that was me I would think ok I’ll hang on a minute until she finishes. Instead he come in and starts making a drink! I’m indicating to him to leave the room. 10 minutes later there is a short break. I call to him to say come and make your drink I’ve got a 10 minutes break. I said to him he could see j was talking he could have just waited a short time. He says it’s his home and kitchen he should be able to make a drink when he wants. I can go somewhere else in the house and I shouldn’t be working at home performing sanatic rituals! And that I’m being horrible. I don’t even work from home. Yes my contract isn’t home based but it is easier at times, saves travel etc.

am I being unreasonable? Or is he? It’s only an hour or so. Yes I could could to an office at work but it means booking a room which isn’t available. He also works from home upstairs in the spare room, I never go in the room when he is working let alone if he was on an important call.

OP posts:
Ilovemyfam · 25/09/2026 08:51

ThisTealWarrior · 24/09/2026 11:59

Because he is the main earner and makes that known.

This gets worse and worse OP.

Not sure if I have an answer but your husband is an idiot.

AlwaysExtraHot · 25/09/2026 08:54

ThisTealWarrior · 24/09/2026 18:57

We have talked some more this evening and he admitted to being unreasonable. Hopefully it will be ok moving forward. I will not use the kitchen from now on and try and seek an alternative room in the house.

He admitted to being unreasonable but he still got his way about the kitchen? Hmm
You said even when you used an alternative room in the house he has been known to walk behind you, and that he's liable to walk in.
Do you really think things are going to change?

RampantIvy · 25/09/2026 09:08

AlwaysExtraHot · 25/09/2026 08:54

He admitted to being unreasonable but he still got his way about the kitchen? Hmm
You said even when you used an alternative room in the house he has been known to walk behind you, and that he's liable to walk in.
Do you really think things are going to change?

I was team stay out of the kitchen but given the latest update it is very clear that he is extremely disrespectful and an arsehole.

I bet he would be upset if you lost your job over this though.

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 25/09/2026 11:04

It's tomcat behaviour. Metaphorically pissing all over your workspace to assert dominance.

mochimoons · 25/09/2026 11:57

Your husband sounds very childish but you should also make a different private space in your house that isn't in a shared space. I would be annoyed if my partner was sitting in the kitchen on a long call and I couldn't go in there.

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