Absolutely not coping

Sounds like you are coping with a lot and spiralling as feeling understandable overwhelmed.
Can you be signed off work for a week or two to get some breathing space?

Can you have a carers assessment? You maybe able to lever in help under the EHCP process although I’m aware it’s challenging.

Is setting up a medication box on a Sunday with days of the week an option & an alarm on your phone for meds & the child that copes the best has a meds alarm too. My teen takes daily meds we do this.

This too will pass you just need to find a small sliver of time to fix your own oxygen mask” to reset. Good luck I’m sure others will have more suggestions

You’re not coping, most people wouldn’t. It’s great that you recognised it. Ring in sick to work tomorrow. Ring the GP and get an appointment for you about not coping and one about your daughter.

Ask school to start TAF meetings.

@Qb2654 what a difficult time for you.
A couple of things - definitely ask for a social care assessment, both for yourself and your children (especially DD). You could end up with some respite support on the basis of all your needs.
If your child's SEN provision on their EHCP includes transport to school, lean hard on the LA to sort out the PA issue. Sounds a very feeble excuse, they will have agencies providing TA support which could be an option if they really can't find anyone elsewhere. Remind them of their statutory duties.
And maybe try for some compassionate / carers leave from work to give yourself time to get better organised with the practical stuff like medication.
Hope things improve for you all.

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If you can manage it, try and get a few days off work to just breathe, learn a bit and allow your head to stop spinning. I want to give you a big hug.

You are doing so well! DS has Autism and was diagnosed type 1 during the Easter holidays 3 years ago. I needed to take 2 weeks off work when he first went back to school in order to make sure all staff were trained and because i was completely exhausted with all of the night waking.
What kept me sain was reminding myself that type 1 is not an exact science. You can do everything right and levels can still be all over the place.
Coincidentally, we were also in Orlando in August and we still haven't got ds levels back to normal and we've been back a few weeks.
Please dm me if you have any questions or need a listening ear who understands.

You can get signed off. Your health is just as important as your children's.

Ok. But you can’t work more than you can manage either- and if you are feeling very unwell, you may be risking making yourself extremely unwell. Remember the children need you well, long term.

This is a temporary crisis. Just put one foot in front of the other. Ask the schools if there’s any way they can support while you are finding some kind of stability. Can they administer medication for one child?

I set up meds for the week. It’s a Sunday job. If I don’t do it, I don’t remember meds. I still have to attach it to a routine- if I’m not sat at my chair at dinner, I don’t take those meds that day. It’s hard.

Please please call social care and ask for a carer’s assessment in your own right. NOBODY could do what is required of you without cracking.

I second social care assessments. A carer’s assessment for you and assessments of DC’s needs for them. On their website, Contact has model letters you can use.

I know you have said you can’t go off sick, but you can. Parent-carer burnout is real and takes a huge toll physically and mentally. You need to look after yourself. Reaching parent-carer burnout is not in anyone’s best interests - not you, not DC, not their schools and not your employer’s interests. You will have a lot more time off if you try to push through burnout.

Have you challenged the LA saying there is no PA available? Their transport duty doesn’t disappear. They are responsible. Lack of staffing is not a lawful excuse for breach of their duties.

I also sort my DSs’ medications on a Sunday. For your DC’s ADHD and iron medications, can you set alarms?